Mother of Necessity

because sometimes, you just have to.

Leaving MY Comfort Zone


Leaving Comfort Zone


I have been in customer service most of my life, over 30 years. It’s the only thing I know, or so I think. I am what the world considers uneducated because I do not have a degree.

I am 4? years old and I am at a crossroads for my life. I am single and my 24 year old son lives with me. I have no job, no income at this time and I have decisions to make, very soon.

I really don’t like big changes. I find comfort in a routine that is simple. But, here I am. I realize that this transition I am in is huge. Changes are bound to happen and my simple routines are going to be gone.

When I lost my job of 14 years about 8 months ago, I thought, oh great another crappy thing I have to go through and had a pity party for myself. That lasted about a month. Then I thought ok, this is a great. I am no longer stressing over ‘that’ job, because it turned into bad job and was causing me to be sick the last 3 years.

I thought that this is my one opportunity to take the time and really think things through and figure out what I want/need to do next with my life. I have some money saved up, I can afford to take the time to ‘get myself together’.

Then I thought this is a great time to have a real vacation because I hadn’t had a vacation is over 20 years. So I took off and visited some family, which was fantastic. I loved every minute I was with them. I was relaxed, I laughed, slept great, and had some of the best conversations.

During my vacation time, I got my house organized. I mean really organized. I cleaned out every drawer, closet and room. I even organized my CD collection, got all my photos in order and organized all my paper work. That took me a month or so and it felt wonderful to have the time that we are all missing to actually get some things accomplished.

Since I was a teenager, I thought it would be great to write about something. I sat down and wrote my first book:” How To Plan A Simple Family Reunion”. That felt so good to put pen to paper and I placed it with Amazon to start selling.

I knew it wasn’t going to be a best seller, but nonetheless, it felt great and I was able to mark off something from my bucket list.

I have wanted to start a blog for over a year but never got it started because I didn’t have the time or better yet, too lazy, too scared to do it. After a few months visiting family, friends, writing a book and getting organized I realized I have nothing to do and I am not ready to go back to work because I still don’t know what I want/need.

Since I have the time, I figured this was another opportunity to do something I wanted. After a couple of months researching blogs and coming up with a name, I released the Mother of Necessity blog.

The blog has been running for little over 3 months. I think it’s doing well, especially since I am not a dot com but a dot net. I am harder to find and search for.

I get so much joy from writing the blogs. It’s a challenge sometime to come up with a topic that is not shallow, which I have posted a couple of those just for fun. I love the comments some of my fans have left. I feel like I am contributing to the world in this manner. I love it. Now if I could only find a way to really make a living off this. That’s one of my big questions I have for this journey I am on.

I really have a passion for this kind of outlet. Writing a blog is a great way to reach so many is such a short time. I really want to help. I know if I struggle with the everyday stuff we all have to go through, I can’t be alone. I may not always have the answers but I can try to help.

I guess I still have that customer service in me. I am looking for a new way to be a better customer service representative.

Blogging is my outlet. I get so much happiness writing and it gives me that chance to help others.

It feels so good to write, I wrote a second book: “Making Decisions”. Still knowing that this was not going to be a best seller, but again, it felt great.

So here I am. Trying to find my way. Researching new jobs outside of customer service, researching new avenues to make a living and researching myself and who I am and what I want/need.

I am realizing that my new path is just around the corner and that my comfort zone will soon be a memory. I am excited, challenged and terrified in this journey. I am discovering new things about myself, some I don’t like and others I am blessed to have discovered.

I truly believe that blogging and writing some simple books is part of my journey. I am grateful for all my readers who have decided to tag along in this journey of mine. I am humbled by you (readers/followers) and your comments. You bring me joy and a purpose.

I know this is not my typical blog post, but my heart was telling me to write about my journey.

Thanks for taking the time to read this post and if you have any questions or suggestions, please leave a comment or you can e-mail me at: if you don’t want your comment/suggestion to be public.

3 thoughts on “Leaving MY Comfort Zone

  1. Dear Mother of necessity,

    Reading your blog made me see you in my heart. Reading along almost made me feel tour trek in my mind, your heavy heart , decisions, seeking a future for yourself, thinking of the future and what it holds. I want to encourage you to keep your heart open to what ever may be in your path. I really enjoy reading your blogs.

    A fan,


    • Thank you so much for the encouraging words. I am glad you are enjoying the blog. Please keep following along, I will do my best to keep everyone up to date on my journey.


    • I’m really glad you enjoyed this post. It can be so hard to have such a great loss. I think by keeping the memory of that person close to our hearts is a great way to continue with what gifts they left us with. I hope you found some comfort in this post today.


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