Mother of Necessity

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The Most Influential Woman


This post is dedicated to my Mom. Happy Mother’s day. You are the best.

Mom & Dad

Mom & Dad

I wish I were a poet or a song-writer, because my words will not do her justice. I will stumble through to show my love to the most influential woman in my life.

If you are a follower of my post, you know Mom came from a large family of 15 siblings. Starting at an early age she became the care-giver. It started with her dad.

Grandpa S. (mom’s dad) lost his leg due to illness and my mom and Grandma S. took care of him. Keep in mind Grandma S. still has young ones at home raising them on top of caring for a very demanding husband. My mom would start in the morning and stay all day till my dad came home then she would take care of her little family.

Ever since she put on that hat, of care-giver she has been there for almost every family member that has been sick. To date, she has cared for her parents, her mother and father in law, 7 brothers/sisters and 2 in laws. Most of these she helped care for up to their passing.

My mom will tell you that she wishes she didn’t have that care-giver hat to put on. But she will also say she is grateful and blessed that she was there for her family. She will also say, there is no other place she would rather be then beside her family.

My mom has taught me so much through her care for others. Mom took us kids everywhere with her. I had to be where the ‘action’ was. So I was usually in the same room as the ’sick’ one. From an early age I have watched my mom care for her siblings and family. She taught me what I can do to help the family. Taught me how to be humble when helping others. She taught me how hard it is to be there for family especially when you are dealing with your own emotional roller coaster watching a sibling pass. Mom also taught me that it is an honor and a blessing to care for others.

Mom, Brother, Sister & Me

Mom, Brother, Sister & Me

Mom is 5 foot nothing. Her family called her the ‘runt’ of the litter. She is a tom-boy at heart. She is one tough lady. She’s the one that taught her kids how to play sports.

She taught all 3 of us to play baseball. Boy, she could hit too. She tried to teach us how to do a flip but my brother was the only one who could do it like her.

She helped teach me how to ride a skateboard. How to play volleyball, and ride a bike.

She loved bowling and tennis too. And she could flip anyone twice her size over her hip, right to the floor. I have seen many young men (my brothers friends and cousins) laying in the middle of the living room floor.

Mom is now 70 something and she still has that same spirit. She can no longer swing a bat or flip you to the floor. Due to illness and back trouble. But I know she would if she could.

Growing up with my mom was great, there was always something going on in the house. It could be redecorating a room, making new curtains, a painting project, working in the yard, hemming a stack of pants (because we are all short) or planting and working the garden.

Mom is not one to be idle for long periods. Even now when she doesn’t feel good, she always has a project going on. She still sews her own curtains, still redecorates the house, and still plays in the flower beds. These projects just take longer now.

Before we all left home, our house was always full of people. It didn’t matter if it was a week day or the weekend. Family and friends were always there. If family wasn’t at our house, we were with family in their house.

With mom having so many siblings, she taught us how to play with others (and play nice). She taught us how to play fair and how to be a gracious loser. She taught us to respect our elders. She showed us by her actions that it’s possible to love a multitude of people and be genuine.

Mom and Dad have been married for 53 years. Absolutely amazing!!!! She graduated in May and was married in June. They have known each other for almost 60 years. They are each other’s best friend.

Through their marriage they have taught us how to love your partner in life. Taught us how to sacrifice for the ones we love, with a genuine kind heart. (Where it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice at all). They taught us how not to give up.

Mom is a wonderful grandparent. The grandkids call her Mimi. There are 3 grandchildren (all grown, now). Mom has always played a part in the grandkids lives. She babysat all 3 grandbabies while we went to work.

Mom would teach our kids things she never taught us. Like: how to throw a bouncy-ball into a running ceiling fan and watch the ball bounce off the walls. I am a witness to this event. I walked into the house and got hit in the head with a ball. I told those 2 boys (one of those boys is mine) that Mimi would have a fit if she caught them. They both laughed and said, “Mimi taught us”.

These grandkids exude love for her.

My mom (and dad), have always been there for me. When I went through the divorce, my son and I lived with them for 8 months. Mom took care of my son when I couldn’t. Thank You!!!!

Mom has always been there, even when I didn’t think I needed her. Always there with some advice, or a solution to the problem. Always there to listen and share the burden. Always there to remind me that I am loved.

Mom is always there, especially when I mess up. She is there to enlighten me in my errors (just like all moms) but there to support me too. She has the ability to love you even when you are being the biggest idiot.

My mom’s heart is huge. She has so much love to give. She has never met a stranger and when you walk into her home, you are family. And she treats you as family too. To me, that is a special trait.

Mom has always been willing to help anyone. It could be a stranger asking for gas money. She may not have had much in her purse, but what she has she gives.

She is a wonderful giver, always there to lend a hand, offer some advice or give her stuff away. She loves to give presents and send cards. She wants to make sure that everyone she comes in contact with, knows that they are loved.

I know I have shared a lot of information about my mom, but the one thing that is the most important to her and to me is: She is a born again Christian. Her example of what a Christian lady is, is her legacy. Her example has set a very high standard for me to follow and live by. (I know I will never reach, but I try).

This is my mom. I love her and I am so grateful God allowed me to be her child. God knew what He was doing when He gave me to her.

Thanks Mom for always being there and for being the best example for me.

I LOVE YA, MOM. Happy Mother’s day!!!

4 thoughts on “The Most Influential Woman

  1. So thoughtful, you must love your momma


  2. What an awesome tribute!!!!!!


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