Mother of Necessity

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Food For Thought


What’s for dinner? This is the question every day. I know most of us moms dread this question.whats for dinner

The simple answer is: we have no idea what’s for dinner.

I have more questions than answers on this topic.

It’s not like it was when our moms fed us thirty-forty years ago. They fixed whatever they wanted or whatever they had and put it on our plate and we ate it. No back-talk, no wrinkling up our noses, no: I’m not eating that. Nothing. We ate what was served and then went on with the evening playing in the yard or doing homework.

When did this change? Is it because moms are super busy? It is because there is such a vast variety of foods that we no longer crave something to eat? Is it because we eat too much as Americans and we are eating for the enjoyment of eating and not because we are actually hungry?

Let’s break down these questions. I don’t have all the answers but I do have an opinion.

When did this change? I think this started in the late 70’s early 80’s. More married moms were having to go to work because the economy was so bad and two income family were able to meet the needs of the family. This is also the time where more moms wanted to go to work. To put their education to work and to feel better about themselves because staying at home was not meeting the moms need.

During this time frame the family unit was changing too. More single moms, more divorced families where the mom didn’t’ have a choice but to work.

Moms are too busy? Really???? Too busy to provide a basic necessity to our kids….Food. That can’t be right.

Moms are busy people. I understand that completely, being a single mom too. We have to work 40-60 hours a week just to provide for our family. When we get home after work and take the kids to all their venues, help with homework and clean up, we are exhausted and food is the last thing on our minds.

When we are so tired, cooking and figuring out what to fix, is not something we want to do. So a frozen pizza or some take out is the answer for us. It’s just easier for everyone. Maybe not the healthiest for our kids.

If this is the case, we need to do better for ourselves and our kids. We moms need to learn to plan ahead or have someone help us with the cooking.

Too much variety? There is such an array of foods to eat. Most of us has tried every type of cuisine out there.

I know for me, I don’t crave any certain food. I did when I was a kid. But I do crave a certain cuisine.

I don’t think it’s because of the variety we no longer know what’s for dinner.

The variety helps us figure out what we do want to eat. At least for me it does. The variety helps us eat differently and in most cases better.

Being American? Living in the USA, we have the luxury of having such a vast variety of food and a restaurant on every corner.

I think this is more likely the answer to the dreaded question: What’s for dinner?

We live in a country where everything is convenient. That’s a wonderful thing but it has it has its down falls. Since we have so much food so readily available to us, we have tried everything under the sun and now we want something different or better.

We have so much and it’s there for the taking. We are privileged to live in such a great country and we take it for granted. Now we are bored. We want something different to serve our families.

I think that’s the real reason we don’t know what’s for dinner.

My personal thought on, what’s for dinner is: let’s get back to basics. Serve one meal at dinner time. Plan ahead. Serve the meal, be grateful there is food on the table. And be thankful you were able to provide that meal for your family and feel blessed you have a family to feed.

It’s not about what’s for dinner, it’s about who is setting at my table. Serve a simple meal and enjoy the people in your life.

I want to thank my cousin Debbie for this idea. She provided the question and I used my own opinions. I hope I didn’t offend anyone. Just food for thought (Pun intended).

Tell me your thoughts. Let me know if you think I am right or wrong. I would love to hear from you.

As a side note: My next post will have a few recipes that I use to feed my family. I will still be answering that question, what’s for dinner, by providing some meal options.

2 thoughts on “Food For Thought

  1. How true. I look into my cabinets and think I have nothing to fix for dinner. Then I think about my mom pulling together a meal with seemingly nothing in her cabinets either. Those are some of my favorite meals that I like to still fix today.


    • CW, Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment. I love hearing from my readers. Our mom’s may not have been the best cooks, but there was always a meal on the table.
      In my opinion we need to get back to that, We need more simple but healthy meals. We don’t need food catered to us, we just need a little food and lots of love.


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