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5 Little Stories

I found this on Facebook. I’m not sure who the original author is. I thought it was inspirational and wanted to share with you.

I hope you are having a great week and inspiration is surrounding you.

Five Little Stories
{1} Once all villagers decided to pray for rain, on the day of prayer all the people gathered, but only one boy came with an umbrella.
That’s FAITH
{2} When you throw a baby in the air, she laughs because she knows you will catch her.
That’s TRUST
{3} Every night we go to bed, without any assurance of being alive the next morning but still we set the alarms to wake up.
That’s HOPE
{4} We plan big things for tomorrow in spite of zero knowledge of the future.
{5} We see the world suffering, but still we get married and have children.
That’s LOVE

Ella Ray Senter


Music Monday: McGuffey Lane


Information taken from: Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

McGuffey Lane is an American country rock band from Columbus, Ohio. McGuffey Lane was formed in 1972 by Terry Efaw and Steve Reis, who played together under the name Scotch & Soda. After adding vocalist and guitarist Bobby Gene McNelly, they renamed themselves McGuffey Lane, the location of Reis’s Athens, Ohio home.

They eventually expanded to a sextet and became well-known locally, releasing their first album on their own Paradise Island record label. The LP sold over 40,000 copies,[1] and eventually resulted in their signing with Atco Records. They reissued the debut in 1980 and toured with the Charlie Daniels BandThe Judds and the Allman Brothers Band. The follow-up, Aqua Dream, featured the single “Start It All Over”, which became a crossover pop hit, reaching No. 97 on the Billboard Hot 100.[2]

The group scored several minor hits on the country charts, but their label wanted to market them more as a pop-country act in the vein of Alabama. They moved to Atlantic Records in hopes of focusing on success on the country charts, but as they prepared 1984’s Day By Day, keyboardist Tebes Douglass was killed in a car crash. Soon after, Bobby Gene McNelly left the group to pursue a solo career, and around 1985 the group was dropped from Atlantic. In 1986, they released a Christmas album in support of the Central Ohio Lung Association; towards the end of the year they inked a sponsorship with Miller Beer, but a planned comeback fizzled.

The group played into the late 1980s but had dissolved by 1990. In 1995 they reunited after releasing a greatest hits album, and continued performing locally in Ohio into the 2000s. Two full-length releases followed the reunion, in 1998 and 2002. Today, McGuffey Lane still performs 30-35 concerts annually. In March 2010, Lick Records signed a distribution deal with E1 Entertainment, which will allow the new McGuffey Lane album to be sold in Wal-Mart and Best Buy. On August 18, 2009 they opened for Lynyrd Skynyrd at The LC in Columbus, Ohio.


Take listen and let me know what you think.

McGuffy Lane:  Green Country Mountain:

Have a fantastic Monday. Enjoy the simple things around you. See you on Wednesday for a post.


My Top 20 Movie Choices

Here’s a list of some of my favorite movies. I don’t do horror flicks. I just don’t like them too yucky for me. I hope you enjoy the list and maybe give you few new movies to watch.


Romantic Comedy:

5 Flights Up: Diane Keaton & Morgan Freeman

Under the Tuscan Sun:  Diane Lane, Raoul Bova, Sandra Oh

The Other Woman:  Cameron Diaz, Leslie Mann, Kate Upton


Real-Life Drama:  my favorite category

The Railway Man:  Colin Firth, Nicole Kidman

Devil’s Knot:  Reese Witherspoon, Colin Firth

23 Blast:  Mark Hapka, Bram Hoover, Stephen Lang

Fury:  Brad Pitt, Shia LaBeouf, Logan Lerman

The Good LieReese Witherspoon, Arnold Oceng, Ger Duany


Movies that made me cry:

Second Hand Lions: Robert Duvall, Michael Caine, Haley Joel Osment

Big Hero 6:  Ryan Potter, Scott Adsit, Jamie Chung


Movies that made me think:

Sunset Limited: Tommy Lee Jones & Samuel L Jackson


Pixar Favorites:

Up:  Edward Asner, Jordan Nagai, John Ratzenberger

Wall-E:  Ben Burtt, Elissa Knight, Jeff Garlin

Finding Nemo:  Albert Brooks, Ellen DeGeneres, Alexander Gould


Misc. movies I have enjoyed:

Pitch Perfect: Anna Kendrick, Brittany Snow, Rebel Wilson

The Homesman:  Tommy Lee Jones, Hilary Swank, Grace Gummer

St. Vincent:  Bill Murray, Melissa McCarthy, Naomi Watts


Clint Eastwood Movies:

American Sniper:  Bradley Cooper, Sienna Miller, Kyle Gallner

Trouble with the CurveClint Eastwood, Amy Adams, John Goodman

Jersey Boys:  John Lloyd Young, Erich Bergen, Michael Lomenda


Tell me your favorite movies.


Do We Cater To Our Kids?


In my opinion, Yes I think parents today do cater to their kids. I know I am going to make some people upset with this blog. This blog is about what I witness at the store, restaurants, church, and the park, everywhere I go.

I see it every day. I see parents buying toys kids don’t need just to stop them from crying in the store. I hear moms asking their kids what they want to eat when grocery shopping. I hear kids telling their parents “NO” when mom asks them to stop acting up and mom just goes on and ignores the child.

I hear parents say they want to give their children everything they didn’t have. That’s great that you want your kids to have “things”. But do you have to give it to them at their beckon call? Why can’t they earn the “things” you are wanting to give your child?  We can teach our children that things in life aren’t for free and that you have to earn the things you want in life. Hard work has its rewards.

I hear parents say I don’t want to hurt their feelings by telling them “no”. What??? Really???

Do you really think this is how the world is? Isn’t it better that we hurt their feelings and teach them how to react better and do better? I hurt my kids feeling all the time, just so I can teach him. You can get over having your feelings hurt.

Seriously, I have never had a job where my boss didn’t say no to me. Boy, wouldn’t that be nice though. It sure would be nice to ask my boss to get paid and not work for the next 3 months and the boss says sure that sounds great…….go ahead.  Reality is your boss will laugh at you and probably make you work harder just to prove a point.

In the real world, we are told no all the time. No, you can’t drive 100 mph. No, you can’t drink and drive. No, you can’t have a raise. No, you can’t have the weekend off and so on.

Saying “No” to our kids is a way of life. We will teach them that sometimes we have to wait, or do without. We teach them there are rules to follow for their safety. We teach them that sometimes we don’t always get what we want. Even when it’s deserved.

I hear parents say, I want my child and me to be friends. Well, don’t we all want that, but let’s be real here. Our kids don’t need us to be their friends, we are their parents and that role includes discipline, rules, chores, curfews, love and respect. The friendship role comes later, much later.

When we are our child’s friend we are not teaching them to respect authority or us as parents. We are not setting guidelines for them to learn from. We are not setting the example of what a parent is. We are not teaching them limitations. We are not showing them right from wrong.

My question is: Are we doing our kids a favor or an injustice by catering to them?

My Answer: We are doing an injustice. Because we are teaching our kids to be ‘entitled’ adults.

If we as the parents are not teaching our children respect, rules, the word ‘No”, or giving them everything they want when they want it, we are raising a group of ‘entitled’ adults.

The way I see it, these group of children with have a much tougher time being accepted with friends, employers and co-workers. Because they are expecting everything to go their way. They are expecting a job to fall in their laps without having to make a resume. These kids are expecting to dress any way they want to go to a job interview or work. They are expecting the maximum income just because they think they deserve the max paycheck without any experience in the job. These kids will think that speaking ghetto will fly in the work force.

These kids are set up for failure. All because we as parents didn’t do our jobs and train our kids to respect others, work hard to earn what they want or deserve.

I’m not just picking on you. I have made some of these mistakes too. I protected my kid way too much. And he is paying the price now. It’s harder to watch them fail as adults then to train them right in the first place.

We are hurting our kids and their futures. Heck, we are hurting our own future because this group of kids will be running the country in 20-30 years.  Now that’s a scary thought. A group of entitled individuals running the country. We think it is bad now, Just wait.

Here’s a question for you to ponder: If your parents raised you by telling you “No”, made you earn the things you wanted, gave you curfews, you had chores and rules to follow: Why is this not good enough for our kids too?

If it’s not broke, don’t fix it. Work with what you already know is right and you can’t go wrong.

My intent here was not to offend anyone but to enlighten folks on what I witness every day. We are the parents, it’s our job to do right by our kids. I am not the perfect parent. I admit that. But I have done the best I could for my son to be a respectful, loving, hard-working, kind man. He will be the first to tell you, he has NEVER had anything handed to him. He has a better appreciation for what he does earn. He has pride in his work and the things he has accomplished.

We as parents, just like our parents did for us. Must Do Better. Not just give in to our kids but teach them.

Tell me your thoughts on this topic. Would love to hear your feedback.

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Music Monday–Piano Guys: Charlie Brown Medley

Charlie Brown


Have you heard “The Piano Guys”? If not here’s your chance.

Who doesn’t love the “Peanuts Gang”?  I am a huge Snoopy fan and this song brings back memories. The Piano Guys do this so well and I love where they are performing. This song makes me smile and warms my heart. I hope it does the same for you on this Monday.

Have a great week and enjoy the simple things that make you smile.

Piano Guys:  Charlie Brown Medley:


My “AMAZING” Cousins!!!


This past week I have been prepping/organizing for our annual family reunion that’s coming up soon. I have been setting up a photo slide show that has almost 500 pictures to display at the reunion.

As I looked at all those faces, young and old I got sentimental about my family. I have cried over the photos of my Grandparents/Aunts/Uncles/Cousins that have passed. I set and reminisce about my family. I have some wonderful memories of all my family.

I have some amazing cousins. They all shine in their talents, gifts, kindness and love.

My cousins are my friends. When I sit and think about each one they amaze me.

I may not have a lot of contact with some of my cousins but I do love each one and I know they have my back.

I am going to share some things about my cousins/friends so you too can know I am not being biased. These people are amazing.

So many of my cousins have lost both their parents. I can’t imagine the pain they have gone through. But they all have survived and come out better people. Some have become my extended brothers and sisters. AMAZING!!

The cousins that have lost parents are not bitter. They are sad but still loving. They are happy. I don’t know if I will have that kind of strength and grace when it happens to me. The good part for me, well, because it’s all about me….. I now have people that I know will be there for me when it does occur. I have a support system in place for one of the worst moments in a person’s life. I couldn’t ask for anything more. AMAZING!!!

I have a cousin that has survived 2 brain surgeries in less than a year due to tumors. She is amazing. She is a Christian and never lost her faith in God or asked ‘Why me”. She lost her mom (my aunt) just a couple years before the surgeries. Through this trial she was upbeat, always cheerful, and talking about her future. She didn’t lose her faith and she is still one of the kindest, caring person I have known. She is working and planning on going back to school to get her Nursing degree. AMAZING!!!

I have a cousin that is a missionary. She is married and has 5 kids. She and her husband have taken their kids on mission’s trips for years away from their families. She too has lost both her parents. Raising 5 kids is no easy task, let alone packing up and moving to another country for 3-5 years at a time. Her 2 oldest are now in college and both are going into the mission field as well. She did something right. AMAZING!!!!

I have many cousins that are or have served in the military. Some have made some major sacrifices to service. Some have been divorced, moved away from home for many years. Some came back, not the same.

Each one has a pride you cannot describe unless you know a military person. There is a pride that’s ingrained in them. They stand taller, have more confidence. They seem to be fearless. They made the decision to protect our country and our family. AMAZING!!!

I have cousins that will and have given their shirt right off their backs, just to help someone out. They will give you their last dollar just to help you, even when they need that dollar. My cousins care and love others. As the Bible says, we are to be servants to others. Meaning to help others, no matter the cost.  AMAZING!!!

I have a cousin that has the most angelic voice I have ever heard. She put herself through college. She traveled all over the country singing with her college team. She lost her mom (whom she sang with at church). She has lost a brother too. She is a teacher for little ones and sings to her students now. I want to be in her class. She is one of the sweetest, most forgiving persons I know. AMAZING!!!

All of my cousins are successful in some way. Some have their own business. Some are at the top of their game in the jobs they hold. They all have raised fantastic kids. Married some of the best people you could ever meet.  Some have more than one degree from college.  They all have the best skills just to survive this wild ride called “Life”.  AMAZING people!!!

My cousins always come through in a crisis. They are the first people we call and they are the first ones there to lend a hand. I have a few cousins that stand out in this area for me personally. They are always there to take my call, always there to listen. Always there for advice. Always there the help me or just a shoulder to cry on. These people are AMAZING to me. They show me true kindness and love. I have no reason why they do this for me but I am so grateful.

I have so many more cousins, but I’m afraid that I will leave someone out and I don’t want to hurt their feelings. I know I have mentioned some by the achievements or just their amazing story. But ALL of my cousins shine.

I wish all my readers could come to our family reunion just to see what an AMAZING family I do have.

Sorry if this seemed like I was bragging, well, I was. J

I love my family deeply and I would not be ½ the person I am today if it weren’t for all your love and support. You all are AMAZING.

Let me know about your amazing family. I would love to hear about them.


Making A Mountain Out Of A Mole-Hill


I think this is my son’s favorite past-time. I realize he is still young and can freak out about things he encounters for the first time. But, really to stay in that freak-out mode and to build on it, just seems tiresome to me.

Let me set the stage. A few months ago my son had to replace the engine in his car. He had many choices to pick from but he decided to replace the engine. In this situation he did not freak out at all. (I did for a few minutes).

A few days ago, his car wouldn’t start. He checked everything and he could not find the issue. He comes in the house and is just deflated, his attitude is bad and he’s talking about how his savings will be gone once he gets the car fixed.

He continues to rant about how this, that and the other won’t work out. He just kept building layer after layer of how bad all this is, without even knowing what is wrong with the car or how much it will cost to fix.

He stayed in this phase/mode/mindset for over a day. Never taking any action to resolve the car issue.

As some of you know, once your kid reaches a certain age, we as parents can’t tell them anything. So, I didn’t say a word till he asked me.

That’s when I asked if he called our mechanic, he said “no”.

Here I go being a mom and telling my adult kid what to do. I tell him to get on the phone and make sure the mechanic can take care of the car within a couple of days. And then tell him to call for a tow truck to take the car to the mechanic.

He comes back to me and says the car will be picked up the next day and the mechanic will be ready for the car. Awesome….wheels in motion (pun intended).

The next day everything is done and within a few hours the mechanic calls my son to tell him it was nothing major just a faulty spark plug and he can pick up the car anytime.

Best part, not a lot of money out of my son’s savings.

He drove himself crazy for 2 days all because he made things worse then they were and expected the worst thing to happen. And it wasn’t that way at all.

My brother likes to say this kind of action is ‘going from zero to hammered’. I call it, making a mountain out of a mole hill.

We all do this to ourselves at some point. For me, I’m ok with being in that stage for a minute or two. But to stay in that stage for a day or longer is just ridiculous.

Nothing gets accomplished and your stress level goes through the roof. Then fear sets in because we are afraid of the outcome. All because we went on a tangent to make things worse for ourselves.

Lessons learned:

We make thigs out to be worse than they really are.

Nothing is as a bad as it seems (most of the time)

Don’t let a problem sit and boil, get busy and resolve issue (ASAP)

Take a breath when a problem comes up and then tackle said problem.

I hope my son’s example of what not to do is helpful for you.

Tell me a time when you made a mountain out of a mole hill and how you resolved the problem or what you had learned.