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Music Monday: My Family

musicSince our family reunion is coming up, I have been going through their music this past week. I thought you would enjoy a glimpse into what I got to listen to when I was growing up.

Keep in mind, the quality is not the best. You may have to turn your volume up. I had to convert 30 to 40 year old cassettes to digital without any professional help. I just had a very simple converter added to my computer, no fixes, enhancements, or capabilities of removing that ‘fuzzy’ sound.

If you are a true music fan, I know you will be able to hear the sweets sounds of 4-5 part harmonies and just the pure sound my family has left behind.

Please feel free to leave your comments. I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a wonderful week and I hope this song brings you joy.

SONG:  Don’t Let Me Walk Too Far From Calvary

SUNG BY: My Aunts and Uncles

WHEN: Late 1970’s or early 1980’s.




6 Month Anniversary

6 month AnnivIt has been six months since I started blogging. I have enjoyed writing and coming up with things to share. It can be a struggle for me at times, I do enjoy the challenge blogging offers me.

Blogging is taking me out of my comfort zone. I am an introvert and sharing my world comes easy for the ones in my circle but to let the world in….well, that’s a new area for me. I appreciate all the great, supporting comments I have received. You, my friends, make it easier for me. It warms my heart knowing I have a new group of e-friends out there supporting me. You all are amazing.

Because of you, I have over 2,300 views, and almost 300 followers. I know this doesn’t sound like much in the blogging world, to me, it’s fantastic. I am so grateful for every person that is supporting my journey.

I really didn’t think anyone would read my blog. When I started I had one idea in mind that idea was to try and help my readers have a simpler life. Now that idea is growing into several ideas. Now I want to share my world with my photos, music and blogs. I still want to help you make things easier, but I also want to remind us all that we can still find happiness and peace in the mist of all our struggles. This is because of the support you have shown me these past 6 months.

Thank you for helping me gain some ideas and helping me develop what I/you want out of the blog.

I hope in the future, that while I am growing as a person and growing with the blog that I meet the standards you are looking for.Thank you

Thank you so much for showing your love, kindness, comments, and support. I would not have made it this far without you.

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Reflection and Gratitude

Today I have been working with photos. I have been working on our family reunion photo slideshow. Getting all pictures titled and organized. There are about 800 family photos to go through. A large task but I love viewing all of the faces that have passed and the faces of all my cousins when they were little. So many memories. Brings a tear and a smile.

I have also been working on my photos to add to Fine Art America selling site. I have been sorting, editing, titling almost 300 photos. Check out my page:


REFLECTION: Today, while going through the family photos, I remember my childhood and my aunts/uncle/cousins that have passed. I love my family. They are so important to me.

I can see my Grandma S. setting in her rocking chair with a cigarette in hand and a glass of ice cold Coke. Smiling at the grandkids running around in her house.

I remember playing in the swimming pool at my cousin Jennifer’s house. Playing Red Rover with all my cousins/friends at Vacation Bible School. Playing tag and Hide-N-Seek with all my cousins at family reunions. I still see all my uncles trying to beat the pants off anyone that would play baseball with them. My Uncles are very competitive. They also like teaching us kids lessons, the hard way (the right way too).

That’s right Uncle B. I remember the day you thought you would teach me a lesson about playing with the ‘big’ kids in a baseball game. I was 10 or 11 years old, playing 3rd base in a “big” kids game and my Uncle B gets up to bat. He looks right at me and says……”Are you ready?” “It’s coming right at you”.

I was so nervous but determined to prove to him I belong in the “big” kids game. I got in my stance. I was on the balls of my feet (like my brother taught me). Ready for whatever happened. Either me getting a baseball to the chest or catching the ball.

He swung the bat, the wooden bat made that awesome crack sound. There it was. The baseball coming right towards me. It’s a line drive, aimed toward my head. Uncle B takes off running to first base knowing I will be too much of a chicken to catch a line drive. I never take my eye off the ball.

To my surprise, I caught it. That ball stung my hand, it turned red. That’s right, this little 10-11 year old caught a line drive ball from a man that was big and strong and very capable of doing anything.

I caught the ball and yelled at Uncle B standing on first base. I yelled….”Is that all you got? You’re out! I caught the ball”. I love having the last word. 🙂

it was  a huge shock to Uncle B too. He had no idea that I would actually catch the ball.

To this day he doesn’t know how much that meant to me. He taught me that if you are challenged, don’t back down. You are capable of doing anything if you are prepared.

Love my family. They all have taught me something. Granted it might be a “What not to do” but still a lesson learned.

Reflecting on the past is a good thing as long as you are looking back at the good in life. Reflecting helps keep things in perspective and can motivate you to do more and to be better.

Thanks to all my family that has been there to teach, scold, help and support me through this wonderful journey called Life.


GRATITUDE: Looking at all these pictures today has made me grateful for all I have. I may not have much but I am blessed beyond measure.

Going on these weekend adventure to gather more photos to sell, I am grateful that I have a working car to take me to point A and B. Grateful that I have a little money to put gas in my car.

I am grateful I have my health so I can run around to these different places. Granted I am getting slower and need some time-outs. But still capable.

So thankful that I grew up in a family that really cares for all of us kids (cousins).

My cousins are some of the best people you could ever meet. They are hardworking, honest, caring, loving and some of the funniest people I know.

My gratitude comes from my family. Aunts/Uncles/Cousins/Siblings/Parents and Grandparents. They are an amazing group of folks. They deserve the credit. My family is always there for me. It could be a simple phone call just to check in. A text to say…Hey, just seeing if you are ok. Their kindness is infectious. When they reach out to you, they make you feel like you are the only person they want to be around. They truly love one another and show it.

So today was not about getting a few things done, it was reflecting on my family and the things I do have not what I don’ have. Today was about being grateful for the family I have and all they have taught or shown me.

Today, I say a big “THANK YOU” to my family. And a bigger “THANK YOU” to God who has allowed me to be a part of something so special.

Have you taken the time to reflect and have gratitude for your life? Tell me what you are grateful for or what causes you to reflect on your life.

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Music Monday

Good morning Music Monday!!!

Dustbowl Revival    Photo from:

Dustbowl Revival Photo from:

I was taking a break the other day and wanted to listen to a group I had never heard before. I came across this group. I like the sound. Reminds me of a New Orleans street band.

This group puts a smile on my face.

Take a listen. I’m sure you will be as impressed as I am.

Enjoy your Monday and the rest of the week.

Dustbowl Revival: John The Revelator

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History of July 4th

I know this is a busy day for most of us. I just thought it would be a good idea to post about the history of this great day we celebrate.

Take a minute and remember why we celebrate the 4th of July.US flaf 10

I borrowed this article for our history lesson for the day from:

The Birth of American Independence

When the initial battles in the Revolutionary War broke out in April 1775, few colonists desired complete independence from Great Britain, and those who did were considered radical. By the middle of the following year, however, many more colonists had come to favor independence, thanks to growing hostility against Britain and the spread of revolutionary sentiments such as those expressed in Thomas Paine’s bestselling pamphlet “Common Sense,” published in early 1776. On June 7, when the Continental Congress met at the Pennsylvania State House (later Independence Hall) in Philadelphia, the Virginia delegate Richard Henry Lee introduced a motion calling for the colonies’ independence. Amid heated debate, Congress postponed the vote on Lee’s resolution, but appointed a five-man committee–including Thomas Jefferson of Virginia, John Adams of Massachusetts, Roger Sherman of Connecticut, Benjamin Franklin of Pennsylvania and Robert R. Livingston of New York–to draft a formal statement justifying the break with Great Britain.

Did You Know?   John Adams believed that July 2nd was the correct date on which to celebrate the birth of American independence, and would reportedly turn down invitations to appear at July 4th events in protest. Adams and Thomas Jefferson both died on July 4, 1826–the 50th anniversary of the adoption of the Declaration of Independence.

On July 2nd, the Continental Congress voted in favor of Lee’s resolution for independence in a near-unanimous vote (the New York delegation abstained, but later voted affirmatively). On that day, John Adams wrote to his wife Abigail that July 2 “will be celebrated, by succeeding Generations, as the great anniversary Festival” and that the celebration should include “Pomp and Parade…Games, Sports, Guns, Bells, Bonfires and Illuminations from one End of this Continent to the other.” On July 4th, the Congress formally adopted the Declaration of Independence, which had been written largely by Jefferson. Though the vote for actual independence took place on July 2nd, from then on the 4th became the day that was celebrated as the birth of American independence.

Early Fourth of July Celebrations

In the pre-Revolutionary years, colonists had held annual celebrations of the king’s birthday, which traditionally included the ringing of bells, bonfires, processions and speechmaking. By contrast, during the summer of 1776 some colonists celebrated the birth of independence by holding mock funerals for King George III, as a way of symbolizing the end of the monarchy’s hold on America and the triumph of liberty. Festivities including concerts, bonfires, parades and the firing of cannons and muskets usually accompanied the first public readings of the Declaration of Independence, beginning immediately after its adoption. Philadelphia held the first annual commemoration of independence on July 4, 1777, while Congress was still occupied with the ongoing war. George Washington issued double rations of rum to all his soldiers to mark the anniversary of independence in 1778, and in 1781, several months before the key American victory at Yorktown, Massachusetts became the first state to make July 4th an official state holiday.

After the Revolutionary War, Americans continued to commemorate Independence Day every year, in celebrations that allowed the new nation’s emerging political leaders to address citizens and create a feeling of unity. By the last decade of the 18th century, the two major political parties–Federalists and Democratic-Republicans–that had arisen began holding separate Independence Day celebrations in many large cities.

July 4th Becomes A National Holiday

The tradition of patriotic celebration became even more widespread after the War of 1812, in which the United States again faced Great Britain. In 1870, the U.S. Congress made July 4th a federal holiday; in 1941, the provision was expanded to grant a paid holiday to all federal employees. Over the years, the political importance of the holiday would decline, but Independence Day remained an important national holiday and a symbol of patriotism.

Falling in mid-summer, the Fourth of July has since the late 19th century become a major focus of leisure activities and a common occasion for family get-togethers, often involving fireworks and outdoor barbecues. The most common symbol of the holiday is the American flag, and a common musical accompaniment is “The Star-Spangled Banner,” the national anthem of the United States.

Have a fantastic day. Love and respect the country we live in. Remember it wasn’t an easy path to get here. Please be safe, enjoy your loved ones have fun and enjoy this great country.fireworks



Planning A Reunion In 9 Steps—Promotion included

family reunionIt’s that time of the year where some of us will be going to family reunions. Better yet some of us are planning the reunions.

I love our family reunions. I like reconnecting with my family which are my friends too. I like catching up with everyone, playing games, looking at pictures, hanging out and I love all the food.

If you are planning a reunion this year I have a few helpful tips.

First: Ask for help, you can’t do this by yourself. In our family we have a group of cousins that pitch in and help. There are 5 of us that generally do all the planning, date setting, organizing, set up and clean up.

Second: Pick the date/time. You need to pick your date and time at least 2 months in advance. We do ours about 6 months ahead. Because we have so many that come out of state and we need to be sure this is the final date for them to have time to arrange their schedules.

Third: Pick venue. Decide where you are going to have the reunion. It could be someone’s home, a city park, the country club. Make sure you have your reservations in place.

Fourth: Food options. Have a chat with your committee to see what options they are wanting. You could have it catered, you can assign what foods to bring by what family, and you can do a pot luck style, or the committee provided the main dishes (meats) and everyone bring a side.

Fifth: Make a list. You and you team of helpers need to make a list of everything you will need for the day of the reunion. Such as, plates, cups, silverware, ice, coolers, trash bags, table clothes, extension cords.

Once the list is made then divvy out who’s getting what. This helps relieve the pressure for one person to get everything. You can also ask other family members besides your team to help purchase a few items if needed.

You could also do a day shopping spree with your helpers. This way you have everything at one time and no need to any more shopping.

Sixth: Send out invitations. I recommend social media as your first invites. Do this about 2 months ahead as a reminder. Then mail or send e-mail or social media reminders a month in advance.

Corn HoleSeventh: Entertainment. Plan for some games. This can be yard games, board/card games. You can have a craft table for the little ones.

If you want you can have a DJ come in and play music or a band.

Eighth: Set-up/clean-up. Here’s where your committee comes in handy. Make sure you have everything you need and have your team meet you at the venue at least 1-2 hours in advance. You will need this time to put table sloths on, make sure bathrooms are clean, setting up food stations, drink stations, games, the band or DJ.

The clean-up is just as important. You want to make sure the venue is just like you found it, if not better. Make sure you help take out the trash, sweep up you mess, wipe off tables and chairs. This will also help your family remember everything they brought. No need for a lost and found each year.

Ninth: Remember what worked and didn’t work. After you get home rest a day and think about the things you want to do different the next time. Call your helpers and see what they have to say too. Make a list of what worked and what didn’t so you can be sure to make your reunion better the following year.

If you would like more information on planning a family reunion, please go to the top of the page and click on the “BOOKS” tab. I have written a short book on family reunions. It is a step by step guide with lots of helpful tips. Only $3.99 and you can have it the same day to help you get started.

I will give away (for free) my book to the first 3 people that e-mail me at  In the e-mail please provide your name and e-mail address you want your book delivered to. Promo ends on July 3rd.

I hope these tips and book help you and your family have the best reunion.

Please let me know what worked for you or what didn’t work.

Do you have any helpful tips for a family reunion?