We are surrounded by terrible stories, events and personal tragedies every day. Stories that make you weep for others. Personal issues that would make others wither. These things can either soften your heart or harden your heart.
The way I see it, we have become desensitized towards things that we either don’t care or don’t bother to get involved. We have become so sensitive that everything offends us or we are looking for things to offend us just so we can be heard.
That is no way live. Yes, there are terrible things going one in our world and personal lives, but this does not mean that we have to succumb to the negative things around us. We don’t have to be numb about everything and we don’t have to be so sensitive either. There is a middle ground called positive thinking.
Positive thinking allows us to be in the moment to weep for others but also be blessed knowing that, that ‘story’ could be us.
Now don’t take that the wrong way. I don’t want you to think I don’t care. Because I do. Let me put it this way.
My mom is very sick. It’s hard for me to watch her health decline. It’s an emotional roller coaster with lots of low thoughts. You know what, I would not have it any other way. Because I know it’s my turn to take this journey. I am grateful that I don’t have to be on the path by myself. Grateful that I have family to help me. Grateful for everyday my parents are still here.
Where there is a negative there will ALWAYS be a positive.
I am a realist at heart. It’s easy for me to see the negative first. But, I also search for the positive in any situation. If I can deal with the negative, I know for a fact there will always be positives too.
We just have to stop and search for the positive. We may not always see the positive at first. That’s why we search. For instance: if you are working on a jig-saw puzzle, sometimes it’s better to turn the picture on the box upside down or the puzzle upside down to get a new perspective. It doesn’t always work but we were able to fit a few more pieces together in the puzzle because of a new perspective.
Searching for the positive takes some energy if you are not used to doing so. But I will tell you, it is well worth the effort.
Practice this the next time you are in the car and find yourself frustrated because the guy in front of you is doing 45 in a 55. Think of it this way, now you have the time to enjoy that beautiful sunrise, or maybe that is God intervening and saving you from an accident. Either way that is a positive. It will be fine that you are a few minutes late for work.
Things happen and it’s up to us to deal with those things in a positive manner. Which means we have to search the positive first in order for there to be a positive reaction.