Mother of Necessity

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Taking a Breath


time outWith so much going on lately I decided to just set and take a breath. I needed to reflect on….. Well, everything.

The past few months have been a wild ride. I started a new job, getting adjusted to job, there was a death in the family, Mom and all her health struggles, “The Kid” and all his indecisiveness, unfinished projects and this roller coaster ride of emotions. It’s been overwhelming to say the least.

I realize that what is on my plate most people can slide on by without missing a beat. I do not have that type of personality. I carry the weight of the world on my shoulders by choice. I don’t know why but I do. So here I am…Needing that minute to catch up and catch my breath.

I needed to get some perspective, grieve, get caught up and just breathe for a few minutes.

The past few days have been good. I have been able to get a few projects done, started a new project. I gave myself the opportunity to grieve for my uncle and really think about what he had done for me and the family. I had a great conversation with “The Kid” that was long overdue. I am getting more comfortable with the job.

I need to practice what I preach more often. I forgot to reflect on everyday and find the joy in each moment. I was being selfish and only thinking about what I was feeling or doing. I was having a pity party for myself. That is no place to be when you have so much going on. You forget about the little things and focus on the weight you are carrying.

That is not good for anyone. We all need to reflect and take a moment to breathe through the junk so we can find some peace in the crazy around us. 

Once I began to settle into my reflections I realized that I had missed a few blessings this week.

Mom, my sister and I had a great visit the other day. All 3 of us laughed till we cried. I hadn’t seen mom do that in years.  It was a sweet moment to watch and be a part of. It warmed my heart listening to my mom, my sister and I joke around, laugh and have a fun time. I’m going to miss that.

I had a few cousins and some family friends check in on me, just to see how I was doing. What a blessing to have people care for you that they take the time to show you how much.

My new friend at work has been very supportive. She listens to me while I share stories about my family and laughs with me at our goofiness. She is a sweet heart. What a blessing to have a new friend.

What a blessing to have one of my fellow bloggers reach out with such kind, loving words of encouragement. Thank you nopassingfancy.  Check out her blog at…….. 

I am hoping and praying that this week coming up I will be able to stop, take a breath and reflect on the good moments and not hold onto the heaviness of my emotions.

I encourage you to join me on taking a breath to enjoy the things around you.

5 thoughts on “Taking a Breath

  1. Please keep blogging – you’re a great source if inspiration to me too…when I feel overwhelmed and saddened and angered, your blog post reminds me of all the good; of all the happy blessings. So your posts not only help YOU to find peace and joy in the chaos, but help ME as I face my own different kinds of chaos 😉


    • I pray that your through your chaos you find peace and that you do not struggle for a long period of time. I am thankful that the blogs are inspiring you. That makes my heart feel all warm and fuzzy. As my mom says, “you have to take this big old world one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at time or even one breath at a time”. She’s a smart lady and great words to live by.

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  2. I am so glad you have so many blessings surrounding you! 🙂

    I mentioned to someone the other day that they needed to ‘stop’. We were chatting via instant message, and the reply I got was just a question mark. So I expanded my word ‘stop’: I am a person who also tends to carry the weight of the world on her shoulders, despite the fact that it is not for me to do. If I could take pain and hurt away from others, I would, and it overwhelms me sometimes that I can’t.

    But here is what I have learnt the last few years: If I don’t stop, there won’t be a ‘me’ left to do anything, let alone help others. Sometimes it only takes five minutes of watching a bee buzzing around the garden while I drink my coffee; sometimes it requires me switching off for an entire hour as I fall into the depths of oblivious sleep. And as ridiculous as this sounds, sometimes I just close my eyes, and think ‘happy thoughts’ (because all I have is two minutes to try and recharge)!

    But here is what else I have learnt: As much as I need to give myself time to breath, and time to recharge, and time to reflect on blessings and happy thoughts… much as I need that for my emotional health….my emotional health needs something else too. It needs to be allowed to express itself in the negative as well. Sometimes I need to cry into my pillow, when I am alone, for a good half an hour. Sometimes I need to express my anger, by pumping my fist into that same pillow, or writing an angry letter (which never gets mailed, of course) or smashing around the pots and pans as I re-organize the cupboard they are stored in, yet again.

    Because I have found that trying to always be upbeat and positive, and refusing to allow yourself time to work through the ‘bad feelings’ is actually more exhausting than anything else.
    That said, you seem to have a good balance going 🙂 Please don’t feel guilty when you let yourself feel the ‘bad things’. Feeling them is part of the process and part of the climb, so long as you don’t stay in those negative emotions for too long, it’s all right. Keep putting one foot in front of the other, but remember to pause, not only for the joyful blessings to spur you on, but for the tears and anger to help work out the frustrations too!
    And I am sure you know all this…but just thought I’d confirm it for you 😉

    Still thinking of you all. (Sorry for the ‘novella’ reply!)
    And thanks for the mention….I am glad I have helped a little.


    • You are so right. We do need to vent out our frustrations, anger and yucky feelings too. Which I do on a daily basis. “The Kid” is a great listener and a huge supporter of the venting process I have. It seems my lows are the ones yelling the loudest right now which is why I’m blogging about finding the joy. In all the chaos I forget that there were good moments in my day. The blogs are helping me find those moments of peace and I hope that this journey I am one will help others.
      Thank you for reminding me that there will always be good and bad moments in our lives and we all need to work through the bad so the good can shine a little brighter for us to enjoy.
      It is my pleasure to mention you in the blog. You have been a great blessing to me and have brightened my days. Thank you for your kindness.

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