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My Journey: New Job-17 Blessings

blessings

The job is going good. Still very slow progress in the actual ‘doing’ my job. But it’s getting better.

This may not be my long-term career and I am ok with that. But while I am here I have to say I am blessed. Here are my blessings:

  1. Slow progress is a good thing. Slow and steady wins the race and it gives me time to really learn the job and shine.
  2. No Stress: I walk out the office door and the job stays there. No a lot of people can say that.
  3. It’s paying the bills. May not have any extra but I am blessed to have my needs met.
  4. Not a big commute. I drive less than 30 minutes one way and only on the freeway for 2 miles. Got to love that.
  5. Close to home and family.
  6. No weekends. This is the first job I have had that started out with no weekend work.
  7. The hours are great. Normal working hours during the day.
  8. Medical benefits. They may not be great but they get the job done.
  9. Attire: Dress casual. I couldn’t afford a brand new wardrobe, but was able to afford the clothes I needed.
  10. No contact with the everyday public.  That’s something new for me. Kind of like it.
  11. No more customer service phone calls with crazy people.
  12. Vacation time already started. I didn’t have to wait 6 months to a year to have time off.
  13. No headset glued to my ears for 8 hours a day.
  14. Fast paced but very doable.
  15. Different type of work environment. This gives me the opportunity to handle something new.
  16. Making a few new friends.
  17. Opportunities to learn new things.

 I am very blessed to have this job. It may be awkward at times but the blessings outweigh the awkwardness. Who knows what the future holds for me but I continue to find the blessings in everything in my life.

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Searching For The Positive

postiveWe are surrounded by terrible stories, events and personal tragedies every day. Stories that make you weep for others. Personal issues that would make others wither.  These things can either soften your heart or harden your heart.

The way I see it, we have become desensitized towards things that we either don’t care or don’t bother to get involved.  We have become so sensitive that everything offends us or we are looking for things to offend us just so we can be heard.

That is no way live. Yes, there are terrible things going one in our world and personal lives, but this does not mean that we have to succumb to the negative things around us. We don’t have to be numb about everything and we don’t have to be so sensitive either. There is a middle ground called positive thinking.

Positive thinking allows us to be in the moment to weep for others but also be blessed knowing that, that ‘story’ could be us.

Now don’t take that the wrong way. I don’t want you to think I don’t care. Because I do. Let me put it this way.

My mom is very sick. It’s hard for me to watch her health decline. It’s an emotional roller coaster with lots of low thoughts. You know what, I would not have it any other way. Because I know it’s my turn to take this journey. I am grateful that I don’t have to be on the path by myself. Grateful that I have family to help me. Grateful for everyday my parents are still here.

Where there is a negative there will ALWAYS be a positive.

I am a realist at heart. It’s easy for me to see the negative first. But, I also search for the positive in any situation. If I can deal with the negative, I know for a fact there will always be positives too.   

We just have to stop and search for the positive. We may not always see the positive at first. That’s why we search. For instance: if you are working on a jig-saw puzzle, sometimes it’s better to turn the picture on the box upside down or the puzzle upside down to get a new perspective. It doesn’t always work but we were able to fit a few more pieces together in the puzzle because of a new perspective.

Searching for the positive takes some energy if you are not used to doing so. But I will tell you, it is well worth the effort.

Practice this the next time you are in the car and find yourself frustrated because the guy in front of you is doing 45 in a 55.  Think of it this way, now you have the time to enjoy that beautiful sunrise, or maybe that is God intervening and saving you from an accident. Either way that is a positive. It will be fine that you are a few minutes late for work.

Things happen and it’s up to us to deal with those things in a positive manner. Which means we have to search the positive first in order for there to be a positive reaction.


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Happy New Year!!!!

Happy New YearWOW!!! 2015 was a roller coaster ride for me. Lots of highs and lows. As I look back on 2015 I realized that I have grown. I have been challenged spiritually and emotionally. I may not have come out of these things the victor but yet I have managed to grow.

2015 had more lows for me than I have ever faced in the past. A couple of deaths in the family that hit me really hard. There were a few cousins that had some illnesses that were/are very scary. My parent’s health is declining.  The struggles of being a parent of an adult child living at home. Not working for over a year. There were lots of reality checks in 2015 that I wasn’t ready to face. Several bouts of depression. The struggle of finding a job.

2015 also had a few highs. A cousin that had two surgeries back to back and recovered nicely and is cancer free. Another cousin changed his life by trusting God. I started the blog and wrote a book. I found a job. I realized that I am tougher than I thought. I have found out that I have so many praying and supporting me.

As I look back on 2015 I realized that I am blessed to have gone through all those emotional high’s and low’s. I am blessed that I have survived all those things. I am blessed that my parents are still here. I am blessed that my cousins love and support me. I am blessed to have the ‘kid’ home with me. I am blessed that I have found a job. I am blessed to have such wonderful siblings and in-laws. I am blessed to have a fantastic niece and nephew and a great nephew.  I am blessed to have amazing Aunts and Uncles in my life. I am blessed to learn that I am strong and I will survive. I am blessed to have had some great adventures in 2015. I am blessed that I have followers and supporters for the blog.

Overall 2015 wasn’t so bad. It could have been so much worse. And I know some would have given anything to take over my highs and lows.

Just like any other year, we think that year was either the best or worst yet. I am blessed that I do not know what this earthly world has in store for me. I am up for the challenge. I can’t fail with so much support and love surrounding me.

I am looking forward to a new year, new challenges, new adventures, new beginnings and more blessings.

I do not do resolutions. But what I want to strive for in 2016 are things that I know will make me a better person.

  1. Recognize my blessings more quickly.
  2. Forgive others and myself more frequently.
  3. Have a servant’s heart.
  4. Be more patient

There are a few other things that I would like to see happen in 2016 (for me).

  1. More followers/supporters for my blog.
  2. Write another book
  3. Grow in my photography skills
  4. My photos will start to add actual income for my family

I hope you all have a wonderful, blessed and fulfilling 2016. Tell me some of your resolutions or hopes for 2016.


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My Journey: New Job-Figured It Out

puzzle As I mentioned before, this work place is odd and awkward. No one talks to each other, there are no cliques on the team and no one seems to care.

I have been developing a couple of friendships, which has made the work place a little nicer. I have been asking lots of questions, listening and watching closely to everything around me.

I’m beginning to figure out the office politics, and who are the ‘go to’ people.

I have been talking to others outside of work about the awkwardness on my team. I’m trying to get different perspectives on the issue.

When talking this over with a cousin, she mentioned that it could be the supervisor we have. The supervisor may be the one that is causing the tension. I wasn’t sure if that was the case.

I went to work the next day and began to study everyone’s body language and facial expressions when she would communicate with them. I also began to ask specific questions about the supervisor to my team-mates.

WOW!!! That was it. The supervisor is the one that is causing all of this tension and awkwardness on the team.  Now I understand why no one is talking or laughing with each other.

I figured I can work with this. Knowing where all of this yucky stuff is coming from, I know what my role is.

I have taken it upon myself to try and befriend my supervisor. I am going to take the advice of a very wise person, my mom……….I am going to kill the supervisor with KINDENSS. I know this will take time and some energy on my part. But I think it will be worth it in the end. I am hoping the supervisor will lighten up, even if it’s a little bit. That’s got to be better than what we have now.

Even if the supervisor does take a liking to me…well at least my head may be off the chopping block. Can everyone say…..kiss up? Yes, I will do whatever I have to do to make this job better for me.

Which by the way, I think it’s working. This morning while the supervisor as making her rounds, I got a “Good morning, Shelly”, she called me by my name and not just the good morning.  To me, that is progress, I have not heard the supervisor give a personal ‘good morning’ to no one. My plan is working.  I hope.

As for the job itself, things are getting better. I’m still doing busy work but not as much as I was. I can now do a portion of my actual job title.  I still don’t have my log-ins for the computer program to fully do my actual job. There is some progress there too. I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Trying to stay positive and work hard at the busy work. I want to leave an impression. Hopefully befriending the supervisor will go a long way or at the very least, make things a little easier.


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Music Monday: Beatles

Beatles

Here’s a fun song to start the week.

Another short work week. I hope you have a fun and safe week. Remember to look for the little things that make you smile.

Beatles: She came through the bathroom window:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJvxXzmgugs  


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Christmas Music: Part Two

Christmas music

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!!!

I hope you are having the best Christmas ever my friends.

Enjoy some music and don’t forget the reason for the season.

Mark Lowry: Mary Did You Know:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bXmfkFoX-PE

Michael Buble: Cold December Night:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGpvLR-XKcA&list=PLdakRkpsmtJE_kafGRK4QwjAF2u2TaHvN&index=12

Anthony Burger:  Hallelujah Chorus:        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XUBpff5zrV4


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Christmas Music

xmas music

Sorry I don’t have a regular post for you. It’s been a hectic week. I will share next week about the new job.

Christmas is just 2 days away. I hope you have all of your shopping done. Happy to say mine is done.

 I do enjoy Christmas music. Here are a few that I can’t go without during the Christmas season.

 Michael Buble & Shania Twain:  I’m Dreaming of a White Christmas:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Upx15Gpv5NM&list=PLdakRkpsmtJE_kafGRK4QwjAF2u2TaHvN&index=4

Charlie Brown Christmas Dance:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1LUXQWzCno

Anthony Burger: Sleigh Ride:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xEoFh6Otfk4&index=1&list=PLGGZQ7jbz1a076BQeEAdCaCgMOmRH4DQB