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Not A Typical Christmas

candy cane

This Christmas was a different one for the ‘Kid’ and I. Since I just started a new job there was no extra money for us to buy for each other. We made the decision not to decorate the house or put up a tree. There wasn’t even a candy cane in the house. There was no traditional Christmas morning breakfast because we both slept in.

This was the first time since the ‘kid’ was born we did not celebrate Christmas in our home. I have to say, this broke my heart. I realize that he is 25 and no longer a child, but I always want to do right by him and that includes having presents under the tree. I want him to have wonderful memories of Christmas and not give him a memory of that ‘one’ Christmas we did nothing.

Not being able to buy for each other this year helped remind us that there are worse things in the world that could happen. It also reminded us to be grateful for what we do have and not focus on what we don’t.

I have a new job.

We were able to be involved in our family gift exchange.

We had a wonderful dinner and in excellent company on Christmas Eve.

We were able to prepare food to take to my folk’s home for our family on Christmas day.

I was able to help my mom out since she wasn’t feeling good.

We realized that the best gifts are not always ones you unwrap. We have the gift that my parents, his grandparents are still with us and we got to share another Christmas with them.

We have the gift of our health and capabilities to go to my cousin’s home and have a delicious dinner and lots of laughter.

We have the gift of hearing, to hear the laughter of my great nephew, the laughter of my brother, sister and extended family, laughter of my parents and kid. Listening to music. Listening to conversations.

We have the gift of sight even though mine needs help with glasses. Seeing all the smiling faces and joy in my loved ones eyes.

We were gifted with friends and family that love us.

We have the gift of our cousins that we love dearly and are grateful for the joy, love and support they show us all the time.

We have the gift of the best Aunts and Uncles a family could have. They love us unconditionally and that is an amazing gift.

We were given the gift to look at things in a new light.

We have the gift of a roof over our heads and food on our table.

We also have the greatest gift of all, a loving, caring and a protecting God. He always meets our needs.

When I look at this year and how it was a different Christmas for the “kid’ and I. I have to say, it was a great Christmas. We were surrounded by people we love and that love us.  You really can’t ask for more than that.

Here’s my suggestion to you: If you didn’t get what you wanted for Christmas, or your plans didn’t turn out the way you had hoped, don’t be a Scrooge about it, be grateful for what you already have.

Remember everything you have whether it be material possessions or not, is a gift. Be grateful because not everyone has what you have. There will always be someone that would love to be in your position (good or bad).

If you have a grateful heart you will ALWAYS be blessed.

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Guest Writer: Jennifer-Christmas Time Is Here

Photo by: holiday.filminspector.co

Photo by: holiday.filminspector.co

Christmas time is here
Happiness and cheer
Fun for all that children call
Their favorite time of the year.

If you grew up in the 70’s, you probably recognize those lyrics from the beloved A Charlie Brown Christmas movie.  This simple song by Vince Guaraldi melts my heart every time I hear it.  It is not so much the little cartoon (though it is a great story of the true meaning of Christmas) that makes me wax nostalgic, but just the memories of a simpler time.

I have always been a pretty simple person.  I prefer Vanilla ice cream over Razzle Dazzle Berry Crunch.  I have worn the same fragrance for 10+ years.  I still have the comforter that my mom bought me in high school.  I use Ivory soap.  You get the drift.

The sound of those Peanuts kids singing the sweet Christmas song takes me back to when Christmas was just Christmas, not the fast-paced hoopla it is today. Our holiday was not jam-packed with extravagant parties, excessive shopping, and over-the-top decorating that began even before the Thanksgiving turkey left the table!  The song always brings to mind my own little family, my huge extended family, my church.  All those traditions we just called Christmas and did them out of love for Jesus and each other.

Photo by: lambfood.blogspot.com

Photo by: lambfood.blogspot.com

My mom and dad did a fabulous job of “Keeping Christ in Christmas” even before it became a thing!  Not one gift was ever opened on Christmas morning until Dad read Luke 2.  We had one Christmas record that contained only carols.  No “Santa Claus Is Coming to Town” was ever heralded in our home! The entire holiday revolved around praising Jesus and helping others to do the same.  In a very real way it mimicked the very first Christmas where the angels, shepherds, and wise men worshiped Christ, the newborn king!  I am so grateful to my parents for instilling in me, that simple approach to this time of year.

I have so many other memories of Christmas, yet the simple ones remain my favorite.  My Aunt Brenda’s pumpkin cookies, Aunt Jane’s old fashioned decorations, Grandma Sherman’s house every Christmas Eve.  I can still hear the laughter, smell the ham, and feel the excitement of seeing all my cousins!  Christmas Eve was definitely crazy and loud, yet still quaint and…simple. The Christmas story was always read. A Charlie Brown Christmas was always watched by some of the kids.  Lots of hugs and “I love you’s” exchanged.  Lots and lots of simple happiness and cheer. Just the way I like it.

By Jennifer Michael

I am so glad Cousin Jennifer has decided to write another post for us. Thank you Jennifer for being a guest writer. I enjoy your perspective and writing skills. Can’t wait till the next one.

Leave your comments to let Jennifer know how much you have enjoyed her post. Let her know you want more.


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Contest!!!! 12 Days Of Christmas- Your Way

12 days of ChristmasHere’s a challenge for all my readers. I want you to make up your best 12 Days of Christmas song.


Here are the rules: nothing rude, crude or overly distasteful. Make it kid friendly, no cuss words please. If you can’t sing it front of a 7 year old, please rethink your lyrics. It can be themed or just all over the place like mine.

Get the kids involved and have a fun night.

I and a few friends will be the judges. There will only be ONE (1) winner.

Entries must be e-mail no later than the 19th of December. One entry per person please.

The winner will receive 3 Greeting cards (Blank inside) and a free 8×10 Photo print I have taken (at random).  AND…I will post your song on my blog (with your permission).

The Winner will be announced on Music Monday the 21st of December.

Enter your rendition of the song along with your name and add your e-mail address so I can contact you if you are the winner. My blog e-mail: motherofnecessity1@gmail.com

On your mark, get set ….write.

 I want to thank, my brother for the great idea and for helping with some of the lyrics. He’s a nut and I love him.

Thanks mom for your contributions. I was able to complete this madness with your help. Love your ideas.

Thanks to “The Kid” for helping me remember the tune when I was trying to get these silly things to match up to the song.

Enjoy and sing it loud.

Mother of Necessity’s version of the 12 Days of Christmas

                                                                              On the first day of ChristmasGet Happy
my true love gave to me:
A Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the second day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the third day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the fourth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
4 Angry Birds
3 Little pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the fifth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

Kevin Bacon
On the sixth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
And A Partridge Fam-iii-leee


On the seventh day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the eighth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
8 Elves A Cleanin’
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the ninth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
9 Kitty Lives
8 Elves A Cleanin’
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the tenth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
10 Little Indians
9 Kitty Lives
8 Elves A Cleanin’
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the eleventh day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
11 Herbs and Spices
10 Little Indians
9 Kitty Lives
8 Elves A Cleanin’
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

last supper
On the twelfth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
12 Disciples Dining
11 Herbs and Spices
10 Little Indians
9 Kitty Lives
8 Elves A Cleanin’
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee


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Wanting To Help, But Can’t?

free hugsSomething on my heart.

Have you ever been in the position that you know you can’t help someone or comfort someone in need. Especially when your heart is breaking for that loved one(s)? The past month or so has been that for me.

My heart aches that so many of my loved ones are hurting and there is nothing in my power to help or comfort them. Which breaks my heart even more.

As you already know I am a control freak and I want to help others. Not being able to assist them in anyway makes me feel like I have failed them in in some way or that I am a bad cousin, friend, Aunt, sister, daughter and/or mother.

I don’t like seeing loved ones (anyone) suffer or struggle. It truly saddens me to the core that they have to go through the pain. I realize they have their own support. But I’m not helping. I am not contributing in the help.

How do I help someone when there’s nothing you can say or do to help take away the pain?

Here is what I have concluded. There is something you can do to help. It may not be cleaning their home, or even being that should to cry on. You can be there with your love and support.

  1. Make that phone call. Let them know you are just checking in. Sometimes that opens the door for a conversation that needs to be set free.
  2. Text them and let them know you are thinking of them.
  3. Send an e-mail. An e-mail allows the other person a chance to open up and share when they can’t actually talk about the struggle.
  4. Send a card (handwritten). Take the time to write down your love and concern you have for them and make sure you open that line of communication. Sometimes just knowing that someone is in your corner is enough to get them through the day.
  5. When/if they reach out to you….listen to them. They NEED to talk. It doesn’t matter what the content is, LISTEN. They NEED you to listen.
  6. Be there. Just be present for them.
  7. Hug them, sometimes a hug breaks down the barrier. Hug them till they stop hugging you. Let them hold on for dear life if needed.
  8. Prayer is something you can do to help comfort them in a way no one else can. God is the only one that has the power to bring peace to a hurting soul.

Your actions do not have to be large gestures, just your love. I know the above do not sound like a lot of help. But, I have been informed by others that sometimes the smallest act of kindness/love is the greatest help. Supporting hurting individuals is tough because it never seems to be enough. You just being there for them is enough.


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75 Things I Am Thankful For

thanksgiving

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving. I love this holiday. It’s always full of love and loved ones. I just want to share what I am thankful for.

  1. Family: I love my family deeply and I am so grateful for each one.
  2. ‘The Kid’. The best kid a mom could have.
  3. Siblings…Love you knuckleheads.
  4. New job.
  5. Having a year off from actual work.
  6. Discovering new things about myself this past year.
  7. A beautiful sunset.
  8. The changes of the seasons.
  9. A spring breeze blowing through my home.
  10. My niece and nephew
  11. My great nephew and new little nephew or niece on the way.
  12. Prayer
  13. Prayers answered
  14. The right to serve my God.
  15. Music
  16. The ability to hear and see.
  17. Starting a blog….a great outlet to share with others.
  18. All the men and women that serve our country.
  19. New adventures
  20. The capability of learning new things.
  21. A tall glass of sweetened ice tea.
  22. Cousins: you all rock.
  23. Friends: Thanks for loving me for who I am.
  24. A working vehicle.
  25. The sound of rain on a tin roof.
  26. Waking up every morning.
  27. The flow of a good pen.
  28. My Bible
  29. A roof over my head.
  30. Food in the fridge.
  31. Loving and forgiving parents.
  32. The internet
  33. Grandparents that spoiled me as a child.
  34. All my in-laws and extended family.
  35. The ability to read and write….Thank you teachers
  36. Humor…..nothing better than having tears run down my face from laughter.
  37. The smell of cut grass in the summer.
  38. The state of OHIO
  39. The colors of autumn leaves.
  40. Sunshine
  41. Blue skies with big white fluffy clouds.
  42. Hearing a child laugh.
  43. Not having to do laundry by hand.
  44. A ripe tomato from the garden.
  45. A summer rain shower
  46. All the mistakes I have made…they made me grow.
  47. Photography….outlet for some creativity.
  48. Heat in my home on a cold day.
  49. “The Kids” quirkiness, even though they aggravate me sometimes.
  50. My parents staying together for over 50 years.
  51. Hearing and knowing the Word of God.
  52. My family photos
  53. The collection of family music.
  54. The ability to help others
  55. Knowing how to organize
  56. Ordering online….so convenient.
  57. Watching trees blow in the wind.
  58. The sound of a piano, mandolin, violin, guitar or banjo.
  59. The trash man. He takes away all the unwanted things from my home, so     I can have a clean home and street.
  60. I know how to play Euchre and Marbles.
  61. My mom & brother taught me how to play baseball.
  62. The Ohio State Football team.
  63. Daisy flowers
  64. For all of you that read my blog.
  65. Being curled up in a comfy blanket.
  66. A handwritten note/card.
  67. A shoulder to cry on
  68. The sound of the ocean.
  69. Having an external hard drive to save all my photos and music.
  70. A GPS…I wouldn’t be able to get from A to B without one.
  71. Police and firefighters
  72. A place to lay my head at night
  73. A good haircut.
  74. For eye glasses so I can see clearly.
  75. Chocolate

I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your loved ones.

What are you thankful for?


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The Kid

 

The Kid at 18 months

The Kid at 18 months

I know today is not my normal day to post, But this week is special.

This week is my son’s 25th Birthday. There is no way I have a kid that is that old. Isn’t it a parent’s right to embarrass them? He has no idea I am writing about him. I will have him read this after I post. This way he has no say in what I write. I know…I’m a mean mom.

I know every parent says they have the best kids “EVER”, I am no exception. I have the BESTEST KID EVER!!!!

It’s just been the kid and I for a very long time. He has always been my biggest cheerleader. He is my son and I am proud to say he is my friend too.

We can chat for hours about nothing or about serious topics. We don’t always share the same views but I love that he doesn’t conform to what I think. (Most of the time)

He has a beautiful mind and he blows me away with his ideas. I would consider him an “idea man”. He has some great theories on how to rebuild our public school system, which needs some work in my opinion. He was ideas on new products and even new fuels.

I am his sounding board. He comes to me and shares his ideas, and I am the one that tells him his idea won’t work or challenge him to prove to me why the idea would work. We make a good team. His idea may be in the clouds and I am the naysayer.  You never know if one of those crazy ideas or theories will come into play some day. I’m hoping……he’s my retirement program.

Over the years we have had some ups and downs, but he continues to love his mom. He is so respectful towards me. He may not like me at times but he has never disrespected me. I must have done something right.

The Kid at 4

The Kid at 4

He is an old soul. When he was 4 he looked like a little man. He has always asked the hard questions and wanted the big answers. He never settled for the simple version that you can tell most kids.

At the age of 3 we were in the car having a nice summer Sunday drive and he asked me…How do you pray? I simply responded by saying, “you just talk to God like you do with anyone”. Thinking this would be a good enough answer for a 3 year old. Before I knew what was going on. He is yelling “HEY GOD” out the back window of the car at a stop light in town with about 20 people at a nearby ice cream shop.

I turn around and ask him what he is doing and without hesitation he responds…”I’m just making sure God hears me since He’s in heaven”. 

That’s when I knew my hand were going to be full for a long time and I needed to provide more concise answers to his questions. 

You know how most kids go through the “why” stage.  Where they are always asking why to everything you say or tell them. Well my son went through the “What’s that” stage for almost 2 years. This stage started when he could first put 2 words together. These were his first two words.

If I didn’t respond to his question he would ask “what’s that” till I gave him the answer he was looking for. This stage drove me nuts. It didn’t matter what it was, he HAD to know.  If he saw a real cow he would ask “what’s that”. If I was holding a piece of paper, I got the question. I couldn’t respond just by telling him it was paper. I had to tell him what color the paper was, what was on the paper, if the paper was for him or until he was satisfied with my response.

Thank goodness that was a phase and I no longer have to answer that question. I think I used up all my answers. He is still inquisitive but now he does his own research and I don’t have to hear….What’s That? (I kind of miss it)

The Kid at 16

The Kid at 16

He is a wonderful kid. I have never had to worry that he was hanging out with the wrong friends. Never had to worry when he was coming home or who he was talking to on the phone.

I always knew where he was and knew every friend he had. I didn’t even have to give him a curfew. He was always home at a reasonable time.

My kid is bright, inquisitive, respectful, caring, sweet, kind and handsome.

We lived a few blocks from an Aunt. He would go visit with her after school. They would talk and eat Popsicles. Our Aunt was sick and lived by herself. The kid loved his aunt so much that at 12-13 year old he would take the time and go visit with her because he wanted to. Not because I made him or even suggested. He did this on his own. I have to say, that is one of the sweetest things he has done.

He is an American history buff. He can talk your ear off about all the wars.

The kid likes meteorology. He can tell you when it’s going to rain just by looking at the clouds.

 He’s good at math. He passed a calculus course in college and never had a class in high school.

He likes to learn things on his own. He will study a topic for hours just to learn all he can. Not because he has too, but because he likes learning.

He loves physics. Now that’s a subject that he always has to explain to me.

He reads poetry to relax. He likes Emily Dickinson, Edger Allen Poe and Walt Whitman.

He loves cars. He can tell you almost every make/model and year of any car. His favorites are muscle cars from the 70’s. He has been a car fan since he was 10 months old.

He loves music. He listens to almost anything from classical to thrash. He’s not a fan of opera or rap.

I know I’m bragging but this will probably be the last time I will be able to do this in public. Because he’s going to hate me after I post this.

I have to say I am a lucky mom to have such a wonderful kid. I tell people God took pity upon me when He gave me The Kid. I think God looked down on me and thought….She isn’t the brightest crayon in the box, let me give her a good kid that won’t cause too many problems.

Whatever the reason, I am grateful and overly blessed to be this kid’s mom.

He is the best thing I have ever done with my life. He is constantly teaching me things and inspires me to be better. I love every minute of being your mom. I would do it all again, a thousand times over.

Thanks Kid for being such a great son. I will always be proud of you. I will always be in your corner.

I hope this year is your most fulfilling and successful year yet. Happy Birthday, Bud.

Hey!! Guess what?  Love you.  (Inside joke)

The Kid and me 2014

The Kid and me 2014


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Music Monday: David Paul Sherman

David 2013

I want to introduce my Cousin David. David, his brother and mon/dad lived next door to my family till we were all grown. It was great having 2 extra brothers, even though they teased my sister and me to death. Wonderful memories growing up next door to your cousins.

Davis is a pastor and a singer/songwriter. He is doing some great things preaching in his new church and sharing his love for music.

He has some beautiful lyrics about his family and the rest of us. I thought I should do a shameless plug for him and share what he is doing.

He performs all over the state of Ohio and usually records his music in Tennessee. He was written songs that have been sung by Alabama, Charlie Pride, Barbara Fairchild and a few more. David has shared a stage with some of the greats such as Ricky Skaggs and Loretta Lynn. Not too shabby for a boy raised in a small town from Ohio.

Love you David and so proud to call you my cousin.

I hope you enjoy and I’m sure he would love for you to check out his music. Just click on the link below and you can listen for free.

Reverbnation page:  You will need to join (free) to listen to his music. Well worth the effort.

https://www.reverbnation.com/davidpaulsherman

Follow David on his Facebook page.                                                                Facebook page:  https://www.facebook.com/davidpaulsherman/photos_all