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Music Monday: Blackberry Smoke

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Photo by: en.metal-tracker.com

This is one of my brother’s favorite groups. He has seen them a few times in concert and has loved every show. A great band that reminds me of the 70’s. A  southern rock feel. With so much talent. They are fun to listen to.

Have a great week.

Blackberry Smoke: Ain’t Got The Blues

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgpA1UCUQ-w&list=RDcgpA1UCUQ-w

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Happy New Year!!!!

Happy New YearWOW!!! 2015 was a roller coaster ride for me. Lots of highs and lows. As I look back on 2015 I realized that I have grown. I have been challenged spiritually and emotionally. I may not have come out of these things the victor but yet I have managed to grow.

2015 had more lows for me than I have ever faced in the past. A couple of deaths in the family that hit me really hard. There were a few cousins that had some illnesses that were/are very scary. My parent’s health is declining.  The struggles of being a parent of an adult child living at home. Not working for over a year. There were lots of reality checks in 2015 that I wasn’t ready to face. Several bouts of depression. The struggle of finding a job.

2015 also had a few highs. A cousin that had two surgeries back to back and recovered nicely and is cancer free. Another cousin changed his life by trusting God. I started the blog and wrote a book. I found a job. I realized that I am tougher than I thought. I have found out that I have so many praying and supporting me.

As I look back on 2015 I realized that I am blessed to have gone through all those emotional high’s and low’s. I am blessed that I have survived all those things. I am blessed that my parents are still here. I am blessed that my cousins love and support me. I am blessed to have the ‘kid’ home with me. I am blessed that I have found a job. I am blessed to have such wonderful siblings and in-laws. I am blessed to have a fantastic niece and nephew and a great nephew.  I am blessed to have amazing Aunts and Uncles in my life. I am blessed to learn that I am strong and I will survive. I am blessed to have had some great adventures in 2015. I am blessed that I have followers and supporters for the blog.

Overall 2015 wasn’t so bad. It could have been so much worse. And I know some would have given anything to take over my highs and lows.

Just like any other year, we think that year was either the best or worst yet. I am blessed that I do not know what this earthly world has in store for me. I am up for the challenge. I can’t fail with so much support and love surrounding me.

I am looking forward to a new year, new challenges, new adventures, new beginnings and more blessings.

I do not do resolutions. But what I want to strive for in 2016 are things that I know will make me a better person.

  1. Recognize my blessings more quickly.
  2. Forgive others and myself more frequently.
  3. Have a servant’s heart.
  4. Be more patient

There are a few other things that I would like to see happen in 2016 (for me).

  1. More followers/supporters for my blog.
  2. Write another book
  3. Grow in my photography skills
  4. My photos will start to add actual income for my family

I hope you all have a wonderful, blessed and fulfilling 2016. Tell me some of your resolutions or hopes for 2016.


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Not A Typical Christmas

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This Christmas was a different one for the ‘Kid’ and I. Since I just started a new job there was no extra money for us to buy for each other. We made the decision not to decorate the house or put up a tree. There wasn’t even a candy cane in the house. There was no traditional Christmas morning breakfast because we both slept in.

This was the first time since the ‘kid’ was born we did not celebrate Christmas in our home. I have to say, this broke my heart. I realize that he is 25 and no longer a child, but I always want to do right by him and that includes having presents under the tree. I want him to have wonderful memories of Christmas and not give him a memory of that ‘one’ Christmas we did nothing.

Not being able to buy for each other this year helped remind us that there are worse things in the world that could happen. It also reminded us to be grateful for what we do have and not focus on what we don’t.

I have a new job.

We were able to be involved in our family gift exchange.

We had a wonderful dinner and in excellent company on Christmas Eve.

We were able to prepare food to take to my folk’s home for our family on Christmas day.

I was able to help my mom out since she wasn’t feeling good.

We realized that the best gifts are not always ones you unwrap. We have the gift that my parents, his grandparents are still with us and we got to share another Christmas with them.

We have the gift of our health and capabilities to go to my cousin’s home and have a delicious dinner and lots of laughter.

We have the gift of hearing, to hear the laughter of my great nephew, the laughter of my brother, sister and extended family, laughter of my parents and kid. Listening to music. Listening to conversations.

We have the gift of sight even though mine needs help with glasses. Seeing all the smiling faces and joy in my loved ones eyes.

We were gifted with friends and family that love us.

We have the gift of our cousins that we love dearly and are grateful for the joy, love and support they show us all the time.

We have the gift of the best Aunts and Uncles a family could have. They love us unconditionally and that is an amazing gift.

We were given the gift to look at things in a new light.

We have the gift of a roof over our heads and food on our table.

We also have the greatest gift of all, a loving, caring and a protecting God. He always meets our needs.

When I look at this year and how it was a different Christmas for the “kid’ and I. I have to say, it was a great Christmas. We were surrounded by people we love and that love us.  You really can’t ask for more than that.

Here’s my suggestion to you: If you didn’t get what you wanted for Christmas, or your plans didn’t turn out the way you had hoped, don’t be a Scrooge about it, be grateful for what you already have.

Remember everything you have whether it be material possessions or not, is a gift. Be grateful because not everyone has what you have. There will always be someone that would love to be in your position (good or bad).

If you have a grateful heart you will ALWAYS be blessed.


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My Journey: New Job-Fitting In

The past few weeks have been tough ones for me. I started a new job, helped with our family Thanksgiving dinner, we had a death in the family, and I helped organized and cook for the funeral lunch.

The new job has been hard enough for me to deal with let alone all the other things going on.

I am not used to getting up so early. Not working for a year had my sleeping habits skewed. Buying clothes and going through that torment was rough.

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Now trying to fit in at a new company. This has turned out to be a challenge for me. I am not used to that, in the past I have been able to make at least one connection and made a friend by the 2nd day.

This has not been the case this time around. I have been struggling trying to make new friends. I know I am a goober and have my own unique ways. But really??? Still no connections. I think I have lost my touch.

The company I am working for is one of the most different and odd places I have ever been in.  There are no cliques. Everyone pretty much keeps to themselves. It took 5 days before I heard laughter in the office. That just blows my mind.

I know this is a workplace, but come on….no laughing? Even outside where the smokers gather…no one talks to each other.  Just weird.

I have never been in an office setting where there is silence and you can hear every cough, sneeze and phone conversation. Did I mention this office holds around 100 people?

I have been trying to make friends by jumping into light conversations with a joke but they seem to ignore me. I have introduced myself to over 50 people and I get nothing in return.

I was beginning to get paranoid, thinking they don’t want to have anything to do with the ‘fat’ girl or the old woman. Yes, I am the oldest person on my team. Even my 3 supervisors could be my children. I was thinking maybe I was the smelly kid in the classroom or my attire didn’t fit in.

I know none of those are true. I am not the only ’big’ person there, I am not the oldest person in the facility, my clothes are just as nice as everyone else’s and I shower every morning.

What am I doing wrong? I may not be the most social individual but I can carry on a conversation.

Today something happened. I was setting with one of my team members shadowing her. We began to talk and she was sharing all kinds of information about her family and baby. I let her do all the talking and didn’t share one piece of personal information.

What I did though was share my personality as she spoke. I made sarcastic comments that directed back to my behavior and listened carefully to her stories and asked questions.

After a few hours setting with her, one of our team members jumps into the conversation. He looks me in the eye and says…..Can I ask you a person question? I said, sure just ask long as it’s not my weight. We all laughed at that one.

He asked me how old I was. I responded honestly. He had a big grin on his face and said, thank goodness, I am no longer the ‘old man’ on the team, we now have an old lady. I had to laugh. I know how he feels.

That was that. I made 2 friends within minutes all because I gave them the opportunity to share with me.

I have been doubting my choice by accepting the job offer after the past couple of weeks. But now, I think I will hang in there a little longer to see where this weird ride takes me.

You are never too old to learn how to make friends.


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I Hope….

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I didn’t have a blog post planned for today. I owe you an apology.

I’m so sorry. It has been one hectic week and I have not had the time to work on a post.

 Here’s a little something.

I hope you have had a great week.

I hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner.

I hope The Ohio State Buckeyes beat that team up north today. GO BUCKS!

I hope you had/have safe travels

I hope your Turkey was moist and plentiful.

I hope you didn’t eat too much, as I did.

I hope everyone survived your ‘Black Friday’ shopping spree.

I hope you found great deals and no one lost a limb in the mad dash.

I hope you are relaxing today and recovering from a busy week.

I hope you remembered to be Thankful for all you have.

I hope you have all your needs met.

I hope you didn’t spend too much money shopping.

I hope you hugged your loved ones.

I hope you are hugged often and loved deeply.

I hope you have laughed this week and everyday.

I hope you told your family and friends you love them.

I hope you looked for the little things that made you smile.

I hope your next family gathering will be the best one yet.

I hope you are taking care of yourself.

I hope you are enjoying this weather (Ohio folks).

I hope you are finding your joy.

I hope you forgive me for not having a post.

Since Christmas is just around the corner, I will leave you with one of my favorite renditions of a song.

I “hope” you enjoy.

Joy to the world: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZRIYrQFwqyU&list=PLkW_qeRTF9XX2tJ4webh4rG9i_Vf6peF7


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75 Things I Am Thankful For

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Tomorrow is Thanksgiving. I love this holiday. It’s always full of love and loved ones. I just want to share what I am thankful for.

  1. Family: I love my family deeply and I am so grateful for each one.
  2. ‘The Kid’. The best kid a mom could have.
  3. Siblings…Love you knuckleheads.
  4. New job.
  5. Having a year off from actual work.
  6. Discovering new things about myself this past year.
  7. A beautiful sunset.
  8. The changes of the seasons.
  9. A spring breeze blowing through my home.
  10. My niece and nephew
  11. My great nephew and new little nephew or niece on the way.
  12. Prayer
  13. Prayers answered
  14. The right to serve my God.
  15. Music
  16. The ability to hear and see.
  17. Starting a blog….a great outlet to share with others.
  18. All the men and women that serve our country.
  19. New adventures
  20. The capability of learning new things.
  21. A tall glass of sweetened ice tea.
  22. Cousins: you all rock.
  23. Friends: Thanks for loving me for who I am.
  24. A working vehicle.
  25. The sound of rain on a tin roof.
  26. Waking up every morning.
  27. The flow of a good pen.
  28. My Bible
  29. A roof over my head.
  30. Food in the fridge.
  31. Loving and forgiving parents.
  32. The internet
  33. Grandparents that spoiled me as a child.
  34. All my in-laws and extended family.
  35. The ability to read and write….Thank you teachers
  36. Humor…..nothing better than having tears run down my face from laughter.
  37. The smell of cut grass in the summer.
  38. The state of OHIO
  39. The colors of autumn leaves.
  40. Sunshine
  41. Blue skies with big white fluffy clouds.
  42. Hearing a child laugh.
  43. Not having to do laundry by hand.
  44. A ripe tomato from the garden.
  45. A summer rain shower
  46. All the mistakes I have made…they made me grow.
  47. Photography….outlet for some creativity.
  48. Heat in my home on a cold day.
  49. “The Kids” quirkiness, even though they aggravate me sometimes.
  50. My parents staying together for over 50 years.
  51. Hearing and knowing the Word of God.
  52. My family photos
  53. The collection of family music.
  54. The ability to help others
  55. Knowing how to organize
  56. Ordering online….so convenient.
  57. Watching trees blow in the wind.
  58. The sound of a piano, mandolin, violin, guitar or banjo.
  59. The trash man. He takes away all the unwanted things from my home, so     I can have a clean home and street.
  60. I know how to play Euchre and Marbles.
  61. My mom & brother taught me how to play baseball.
  62. The Ohio State Football team.
  63. Daisy flowers
  64. For all of you that read my blog.
  65. Being curled up in a comfy blanket.
  66. A handwritten note/card.
  67. A shoulder to cry on
  68. The sound of the ocean.
  69. Having an external hard drive to save all my photos and music.
  70. A GPS…I wouldn’t be able to get from A to B without one.
  71. Police and firefighters
  72. A place to lay my head at night
  73. A good haircut.
  74. For eye glasses so I can see clearly.
  75. Chocolate

I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your loved ones.

What are you thankful for?


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Holiday Tips & Reminders

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It’s that time of  year. The holiday season has begun. Time to start prepping for visitors, big dinners, and lots of shopping.

Here are a few tips to keep in mind for the holidays.

VISITORS: If you are making your rounds and making impromptu visits, keep in mind people may not be prepared. No judging their homes or actions.

If the home is dirty or they don’t have anything to offer you (drinks/food), don’t be mad. You are surprising them.  Remember why you are visiting. You are there to check in with them, have conversations and see if there is anything you can do to help. These are people you love and adore, please do not judge. Be kind and offer your help.

If you would like to, you can always bring a small gift when you go visit. The gift could be your help around their house, such as helping with decorations or cleaning. You could also gift them with coupons to help with cost of the upcoming events. A nice small centerpiece is always good. Bring your own snacks and drinks.

Bringing a small token is a great gesture of kindness and love.

When you have folks come to your home to visit, I recommend on Thursday or Friday night before the weekend or the day or 2 before the holiday, go through your home and do some light housekeeping.  

Make sure the bathroom is clean, dishes are done and you living room is picked up. Maybe go to the grocery store and get some snacks and extra drinks. This way you are prepared for any visitors.

Visiting is a great way to reconnect with loved ones and everyone feels good when you are able to connect.

DINNERS:  If you are hosting the dinner, make sure you have everything you need. Making that last minute grocery store run can be awful or the store may be closed and you are out of luck.

Ask for help. No need to do this by yourself. There are others that would be grateful to assist you.

Relax: Don’t pressure yourself to make everything perfect. If something doesn’t work out the way you planned, it’s ok. Remind yourself why you are hosting. It’s not for the glory of compliments (even though compliments are wonderful) but for making memories with the people you hold dear. Trust me, your guests don’t care that things are perfect, they are happy to be surrounded by folks they love too.

If you are going to someone’s house for dinner, remember your etiquettes. Be polite (please & thank you), offer your assistance, clean up your mess and play nice with others.

If you are helping with the dinner by bringing a dish (pot luck style) please bring what was asked of you or what you committed to bring. Your friends/family are relying on you to do your part.

If you are not bringing a dish you might want to bring a small gift for the host or for the home. If you are like me and can’t afford a gift, make sure you help with the cleanup. Your host will be so thankful for the help.

Send a nice “Thank You” card after the dinner. It shows your appreciation and the love you have for that family.

SHOPPING: Just a few helpful tips.

Fill up the car with gas before you leave. You don’t want to interrupt the shopping spree by getting gas. Travel with your car lights on. Even during the day. 

Have a list of people you need gifts for or a list of gift items needed. It helps keep you on your budget and reminds you who/what you are needing to purchase.

Keep your money secure. Keep your purse in your hand at all times. Wear a cross-body purse (less likely to be set down or stolen). Carry you debit/credit cards in your front pocket of your pants.

Charge your cell phone or have a car charger. You don’t want to be out shopping and not have any service to retrieve those online coupons.

Carry a small amount of actual cash. Some of those small business do not accept credit cards. It’s also nice to leave your lunch tip in cash for the wait staff.

Set a budget for how much you are spending on your spree.

I hope you have a safe, happy and stress free holidays.