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40 Things Money Can’t Buy

It’s been another busy week. As I am finally settling down to relax, my mind shifts to my surroundings and I think of all the money I have spent on ‘stuff’. Stuff that really has no other purpose than to make my home feel aesthetically pleasing.

I look around and realize that most of the “stuff” I have I don’t need. I can live without the mirror in the hall, I don’t have to have a picture/photo on every wall. I really don’t need all these trinkets/knickknacks on every shelf. I don’t even need the shelf.

No Money

This made me think of things that I don’t spend money on and how much joy I have by NOT spending money on “stuff”.

  1. Feeling the warmth of the sun on my face.
  2. Listening to the leaves blow on the trees
  3. Seeing “The Kid” smile
  4. Spending time with my mom and dad
  5. Listening to dad tell a funny story
  6. Listening to mom talk about her siblings
  7. Laughing with my sister
  8. Listening to music with my brother
  9. Seeing a beautiful sunset
  10. Having a great conversation with one of my cousins
  11. Learning something new
  12. Spending time in prayer
  13. Watching my great nephew play with his Papaw
  14. Watching the ducks/geese play at our local park
  15. Sharing a meal with a loved one
  16. Accomplishing a task  
  17. Helping my neighbor with a chore
  18. Opening up the windows and doors on a beautiful spring day
  19. The smell of a freshly cut lawn
  20. Watching the success of my niece and nephew
  21. Listening to my Mom’s siblings sing from old recordings
  22. Hearing a great sermon preached
  23. Taking a long hot shower
  24. Going through old photos
  25. Singing, even though I sound terrible
  26. Dancing in the kitchen with “the Kid”
  27. Making my mom laugh
  28. A good night’s rest
  29. A good day’s work
  30. People watching
  31. Making my “To-do” lists for the week
  32. Quiet time to reflect
  33. Taking a drive…..Yes, I know I spent money on the gas.
  34. Taking photos on my drive
  35. Taking a walk
  36. Writing a blog
  37. Seeing my family having fun and making memories
  38. Getting organized
  39. Listening to music
  40. Being surrounded by God’s creations.

As I write this, my house is open, the sun is shining through. I hear cyclist on the bike path, children playing on my street. A soft cool breeze is blowing through the house. I smell someone grilling out for the first time this year. I also smell one of my neighbors baking a cake or cookies. I hear “The Kid” laughing in his room while he plays an on-line game.

I have heard a great sermon and listened to some great music. I have made mom laugh today. I have achieved a few tasks and now off to fix food for my loved ones.

Could my day be any better?  I don’t think so. And I didn’t spend a penny. I have had a full enriched, joyful day. The best part, it’s not over yet.

How do you find your joy without spending any money?


Are You Ready For Winter?

My answer….never. I do love the change of the seasons but my least favorite is winter.

When I got up this morning there was a heavy frost outside. It was beautiful but cold. I don’t enjoy the cold. I took a walk and snagged a photo hoping it would change my outlook. It didn’t….still don’t like the cold or winter even though it is pretty.

Photo by: Mother of Necessity

Photo by: Mother of Necessity

There is a four letter word that I swear is a cuss word and I cringe every time I hear it……..SNOW.

I am never mentally prepared for winter. I’m probably going to jinx Ohio for saying this, but I am grateful that it is December and we have yet to see that white fluffy stuff falling from the sky. Grateful that it hasn’t been so cold yet that I haven’t broken out the winter garb.

It’s coming, I know it is, so I might as well get prepared for the inevitable.

Here are a few things that I do to get prepared for that dreaded yucky winter.

  1. Make sure I have hat’s gloves and boots.
  2. Dig the snow shovel out and inspect it, so I know it will work.
  3. Buy a few bags of salt for my sidewalk and path to my car.
  4. Put a bag of salt in the trunk of car. I can always use it in an emergency. I can use it when it’s icy in any parking lot. I can use the unopened bag under a tire if I get stuck and it’s added weight to the car to help with traction.
  5. Keep an extra pair of gloves, hat, a pair of socks, jacket, a blanket, bottled water and a few snacks in the car in case I get stranded.
  6. I never let my car get below a quarter tank of gas. I want to make sure I have gas to stay warm if I get stranded or if I get stuck in traffic.
  7. I put plastic on my windows of my home to keep the warmth in. It saves on my fuel bill too.
  8. Kerosene heater with 5 gallons of fuel. Just in case the electricity goes out. This will keep a couple rooms warm, it will prevent my pipes from freezing and it’s another way to cook food if there is no electricity.
  9. Stock up on canned goods, bread, snacks and water. If I’m not able to leave the house I want to make sure I have something to eat while I am waiting for the snow to stop falling.
  10. Get my car inspected and fix whatever problem there is. I have the oil changed, and get new wipers. I want my car to be extra safe in the winter. I am too old to be setting in a broken car waiting for a tow truck.
  11. I keep lip balm and lotion in my purse. The winter does a number on this old menopausal skin.
  12. I get an extra box of tissues and stock up on cold/sinus medication. It never fails, I always get the flu, a bad cold or have a sinus infection this time of year.
  13. I open my blinds during the day to let the sun help heat my home. It saves on fuel and can brighten you mood too.
  14. Last:  I pray that this winter is mild and I don’t have to use any of the above items.

I hope this winter passes without incident for all of you.

What do you do to be prepared for the yucky winter months?


4 Weeks of De-cluttering Your Home


We all need a little more de-cluttering in our lives. Why not start today?

I know it can be hard to keep up on chores and keeping things organized. I have made a 4 week outline to help you get back to some a lighter feeling home.

The idea here is to take an extra 30-45 minutes a day and help yourself get back into a good routine.

WEEK 1: Kitchen:

Day 1: Refrigerator: Go through your fried and toss everything that has expired or don’t need. Do this with the freezer too. Since you are taking things out of the fridge/freezer, this is a good time to give it a good scrubbing.

Day 2: Start with the biggest and messiest. Take one or two drawers and clean them out. Toss broken items, or put items you no longer need/want in a charity box or garage sale box.

Day 3: One or 2 Cabinets: do the same as day 2.

Day 4: Continue with 2 more drawers or cabinets

Day 5: Clean out pantry or food supply. Toss out everything that is expired. Wipe down the area food has been stored. If you have canned or box food that has not expired and you know you will not be eating, why not donate the food to your local soup kitchen.

Day 6: Pots and Pans/small appliances: Go through your pots, pans, and small gadgets and see if there is anything you can give to charity or sell. If not, organize them so you have better access. Don’t forget to take the time and clean out those spaces that you store them in.

Day 7: Finish up any cabinets, drawers or spaces I may not have mentioned. Give the kitchen a good cleaning

Ta-Da!!! You know have a clean functioning kitchen with less clutter.

WEEK 2: Living Room/space

Day 1: Movies: That movie collection you have, it’s time to let some of it go. Try to cut it down by ½. If this is not possible, at least go through them and organize the movies by genres: horror, love, drama, action films or alphabetically. Even if you only let go of one movie this is a great start.

Day 2: Music: If you have a CD collection (Like I do), this one can be tough. Try and let go of a few CD’s and then organize them alphabetically so they are easier to find. Maybe you could load a few CD’s to your computer or I-pod/MP3 player. This too will help with the clutter.

Day 3: Magazines/Books: Toss out those magazines you have already read or better yet take them to your local library. If you have books laying around, find a shelf to organize them on. If they are books you have read, pass them to a friend, take the books to your library or local shelter. Try and downsize these as much as possible. They take up so much space.

Day 4: Knick-Knacks: Do you have a lot of little things to decorate your place, like figurines, glassware, trinkets. Take a look around your space and ask yourself this question: Do I love this item so much can’t live without it? If the answer is “No” then it’s time to pass it on to charity or put it in that garage sale box.

Day 5: Coat Closet: Take everything out of the closet. Wipe down the walls, shelf and floor. Go through each item that was hanging up. If you haven’t worn that coat in a year, it’s time for the charity box or garage sale box. If there is anything broken like umbrellas, it’s time to toss them. Downsize as much as you can and then put things back in an organized fashion.

Day 6: Give the room a good cleaning. Move furniture so you can sweep and dust under them. Get all the cob webs off the ceiling, corners and walls.

Day 7: REST. Take a break you have been working so hard to de-clutter 2 rooms you deserve a rest. Enjoy the work you have done.

WEEK 3: Bedroom(s)

Day 1: Start with a dresser. Go through each drawer and take out what you no longer wear or need/want. Organize each drawer. But unwanted items in charity or garage sale box.

Day 2: If you have 2 dressers do the next one. If not, go to your child’s room and do their dresser.

Day 3: Closet: Go through your clothes. If you have not worn the item in a year, it’s time to let it go to charity or the garage sale box. Organize your clothes by color, season or type: shirts/pants/dresses/skirts and so on.

Day 4: Do the closet in your child’s room. If your child has outgrown item or no longer wears, you need to toss or put in charity/garage sale box.

Day 5: Under the bed: Pull everything out from under the bed. Same rule applies. If you have not used or needed in a year, it’s time to let it go.

Day 6: Give your room a good cleaning. Sweep, dust and wash curtains.

Day 7: This one is optional. Go through your child’s toys. If they have outgrown toy or no longer play with it, it’s time for a new home. If toy is broken, then toss. You can either get your child involved in this chore but you may have a fight on your hands. You might want to consider doing this one by yourself. Your choice.

WEEK 4: Bathroom(s) Linen Closet

Day 1: If you have a vanity, start with a drawer or two. Take everything out. Discard anything that is outdated or you don’t use/need. Wipe out drawers. Organize the drawers for better use and access.

Day 2: Finish vanity drawers or cabinets.

Day 3: Discard any items that are expired, broken or just yucky, like make-up, hair products, medicines, toothpaste, etc.

Day 4: Linen Closet: Go through all your towels/hand towels and wash cloths. If they are worn out or towels you don’t like or use…t’s time to let them go. If the towels are worn out, you can always cut them down for rags. They make great cleaning rags or keep one in your car (just in case).

If you have sheets in the linen closet go through these too. If you don’t use you can donate or put in garage sale box. Organize your sheets too. Fold them as nicely as you can and use one of the pillow cases to put the fitted, flat sheet in along with the other pillow case. This way you just grab the pillow case and you know you have a matching set ready to go.

Day 5: Give the bathroom a good cleaning. Wipe down walls, get the corners, mop and clean the tub/shower.

Day 6: Gather up the items to take to charity, the library or soup kitchen and drop them off. This way they are no longer sitting in your home making more clutter.

Day 7: Gather all the garage sale items and either start planning your sale or put them aside till you are ready

Shew!!! That was a lot of work. Don’t you feel better? I know I do when I do this to my house every 4 months or so. It feels good to purge the things we no longer need/want.

I know this seems like extra work, but it really isn’t. You can break this down any way you want. If you want to take 30 days just to do your kitchen. That works too. Make a plan. List what you want to do every day and check it off when done. In no time you will have de-cluttered you whole house.


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25 Things To Do/See In Ohio


Here’s a list of 25 things to do in Ohio. I have enjoyed many things on the list. I have a few places I haven’t been yet, but they are places or things I plan on doing.

Some of my favorite things are the amusement parks. Always have so fun going there and getting my heart racing riding the coasters.

I also love driving around the country side discovering the covered bridges. The bridges are always located in some very pretty spots.

Ohio Caverns is one of my favorites because of its location. The drive is beautiful and the cavern tour is a lot of fun.

Red White and Boom is so much fun. Lots of things to do and the fireworks are amazing.

Come and explore Ohio, you will not regret it.

This list is just a few things to do or see in Ohio. Come vacation here. I promise, you will like it.

Cedar Point Amusement park…Sandusky OH

Kings Island Amusement Park….Kings Island (Mason), OH

Ohio Caverns….West Liberty, Ohio

Discover all the covered bridges

Rock-N-Roll Hall of Fame…..Cleveland

Neil Armstrong Air and Space museum…Wapakoneta

Pro Football hall of Fame….Canton

Discover all the Castle’s

Amish country…..Berlin

COSI (Center of Science and Industry)…Columbus

Casinos…. Hollywood in Columbus and Horseshoe in Cincinnati

Lake Erie

Columbus Zoo

Wright Patterson Air Force Museum……Dayton

Hocking Hills State Park

Buck Creek State Park

Take in a Game…..Browns, Bengal’s, Buckeyes, blue jackets, Reds, The Crew


Art/Science Museums

Ohio State Fair

World’s Largest Gavel…Columbus

Tecumseh! Outdoor Drama….Chillicothe

House of trash (EarthShip)…Philo

Visit the big cities: Columbus, Dayton, Cincinnati, many great places to dine and things to do.

Red White and Boom (4th of July) Columbus


If you have already visited our great state, tell me some of your favorite spots or things to do.




Making Lists


Now this is a topic I love. My family thinks I am just a little crazy because of all the lists I make/keep and they say I am addicted to being organized. Well, they’re probably right. I do love my lists and I do get a little goofy grin on my face when I am organizing my stuff or someone else’s things.

I make a list for almost everything. When I go grocery shopping, I have a list. When I have errands to run, I have a list. If I travel, I have a list and carry a pen/paper with me. I even have a list for everyday chores I need to get done.

I really enjoy checking things off my to-do lists. I feel like I am accomplishing my goal and it drives me to keep going. Lists are great reminders for me too. I can get side tracked easily and the lists helps me stay focused.

Here are a few examples where making a list will help.Check List

PRIORITIZE: Prioritizing is a great method of list making you can use to be assured that the most important things will get done first. It allows you to give your full attention and energy.

I suggest that with this type of list, you write down the items that have the highest priority first to the least important to the end. This way you can go straight down the list without having to shuffle things around. Do the items at the top and work your way down.

This type of list can be used for almost anything: business chores, household chores, kids’ activities, weekend chores, vacations, and husband’s to-do. A prioritizing list can be used for the day/week/month and yearly list that you want to accomplish.

I like this type of list because it allows me to see what is important, it helps me stay focused, and the list helps me save time and sometimes money.

GROCERY: I never leave home without my grocery list. This list is simple and most people already use this method for shopping.

The reason I love a grocery/shopping list is, it saves me money. I make my list at home by going through my cabinets, freezer, fridge and each room. This way I know I am making a list of things I need. I only buy what’s on the list. If the item is not on the list I don’t buy it. I can add it to the next time I go shopping if I really need it.

To help with saving money, I sometimes make up a menu for the week and only buy the items for the menu. Great way to save some money and by knowing what your meals are for the week, it takes out the stress of cooking for the week because you already know what you are having.

CHORES: When we think of chores, we think of children. That’s not the case here, even though a chore list works for the kids too. But let’s talk about big kid chores. The things we have to get done, whether it be going to the store, cleaning, organizing, toting the kids from activity to activity or just the simple errands we do every day.

Making a chore list is a great way to remind us of the things we need to get done for the day or week. It can save us time, energy and money because we are not back tracking or adding to the next day of chores that have to be done.

I know you are thinking I don’t need a chore list. I do the same thing every day and I don’t need a list to tell me what is next. You may be right, but what about that one day where everything is turned upside down for some reason? Or, if like me, my memory is shot for the day? Do you have a back-up plan to help yourself out? Just giving you something to think about.

IDEAS: Making a list of your brilliant and not so brilliant ideas is good too. How do you think I come up with these posts? I may not be the brightest crayon in the box, but at least I’m in the box. We all have ideas of things we want for our future or ideas about decorating the house, or ideas of the next best thing. I too have a list, mine is a list of ideas I want to explore or write about.

We may not achieve everything off the list but it’s great to have dreams and just go for it. I really like this list. I can go back to it every day to remember an idea I want to make a post out of or to add to my lists of ideas.

Remember, there are no bad ideas and anything is possible.

Making a list takes less than 5 minutes of your time. In my opinion there’s no reason not to have a list of some sort. It’s one of the simplest ways to help yourself. A list can save you time, energy, money and maybe make you some money too.

Start making your lists today. Let me know how making a list has helped you.

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Sorry I am late for my post. It’s been one of those days.


Accountability is the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s actions, according to the dictionary.

What this means for us is, we have to answer for our actions when we are reaching for that goal. WOW!!! That’s some tough love we have to give to ourselves. That’s great motivation in its self.

Here’s a couple of ideas how to hold yourself accountable.

First, I suggest a weekly check list for yourself. If you stick to the check list you are taking responsibility for what you want to get accomplish for the week. This can help you stay focused and motivated.

Second, tell everyone you know what you are wanting to get accomplished. They will hold you accountable for your actions and you will give you the drive you need to get things done. Your friends are waiting on a progress report and you don’t want to let them down.

Third, ask a friend/colleague to help you. You will have to let them in on your goal, timelines and what you are wanting to get accomplished. Ask them if you can check in with them daily, weekly, or monthly to let them know what you have been doing to reach that goal. Their input will help you stay on track because you don’t want to provide a bad progress report.

I know these ideas seem to be simple, but they are not. Because you are asking of yourself and others to be completely honest. That’s hard to do. We like to sugar coat what we are doing and tell ourselves we’re doing great. We all do it…lie to ourselves. Having to check in with someone, they give you a different outlook and may think you should be challenging yourself more.

I know you can do these things. It’s not too hard. You have to be honest with yourself and trust your friend/colleague to be honest with you. It’s all pretty simple.

Be accountable for your own actions. This will help you stay focused, get the job done more efficiently and be honest with your actions. All these things are great motivators.