Mother of Necessity

because sometimes, you just have to.


Did Your Get Up And Go, Got Up And Went

MultitaskingHave you ever been looking forward to something and when that day came, you just didn’t want to anymore? Or have you been in the ‘zone’ and working hard and all of a sudden your ‘zone’ was gone?

This happens to me all the time.

In my family we say “Get up and go” which means it’s time to do something, time for work, chores, anything. For instance if I know my son has a list of things to do, I will gently remind him by saying….Don’t you think it’s time to get up and go. That’s his queue.

Now, my mom will say this to my dad and my dad’s response (just to bug mom) is: My get up and go, got up and went. Which means, he really doesn’t want to or he’s just bugging mom.

Seriously though, have you ever had the energy to do something, go someplace or be in the middle of a task and out of the blue, you just don’t feel like it anymore or you lost your momentum? It’s not that you are tired, you just no longer have the energy to follow through. What is up with that?POOF- Gone

This confuses me every time. I had the energy 10 minutes ago, where did that energy go? It got up and went. I‘ve been trying to figure out why this happens to me. Am I missing something, Do I have ADD, or am I just lazy?

I may have ADD, I do like a shiny object and I do get side tracked on occasion. I can be lazy too. But when I am in the middle of something or have committed myself to a task or friends I will follow through. This one has me befuddled.

I have been practicing a few tricks to help myself with this anomaly.

The first thing I do is try to figure out why I no longer want to do the thing I was looking forward to. I ask myself these questions.

Am I board with said project?

Do I really NEED to do this right now?

Do I really want to go to…..?

Will this impact my day, week, friend or family?

Should I do it anyway?

Once I have answered these questions, I generally have my answer to what I will do next.

If I see that I really don’t have a need for or it won’t impact anyone, then I will either drop it or move on, or some sort of guilt will rear its ugly head and I will do it anyway.

If my answers are, I need to, I have to, and it’s the right thing to do then I will force myself to do/go. I generally feel good about my decision to go through with it.

I have found out that even when I don’t want to and I do/go anyway. I have great time and I get so much accomplished.

It works out in the end. But I still haven’t figured out why I lost the gumption in the first place.

I can’t be alone in this. Well, maybe I am the odd ball after all.

If you have any ideas on why I/we do this to ourselves, please share with me. I really want to know. This is one thing that drives me nuts sometimes.

Share your thoughts to help a girl out. Thanks

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Be Prepared

Be Prepared

You are in the mood for a good old fashion fried egg sandwich for dinner. (I know, breakfast for dinner? Gross!!! Try it sometime, it’s great). You’ve been thinking about it all day. Thinking about how good it will taste. You get home after a yucky day at work, you kick off your shoes and change into the sweatpants.

You go to the kitchen, you put the skillet on the stove, put 2 slices of bread in the toaster and go to the fridge to get the eggs and butter. You got the butter but wait…..You don’t see any eggs. You move things around in the fridge hoping to find just one egg. There’s nothing, no egg. UGH!!!!! So frustrating. The only thing you’ve been thinking about all day is that egg sandwich. That egg sandwich was going to be your reward for making it through such a yucky day. Now you won’t have the pleasure of tasting what you’ve been consumed with all day. There’s no reward.

Not being rewarded for your hard work can be very disappointing, frustrating, aggravating and can make you mad.

Being prepared for a goal works the same way. You have to be prepared for your task so you can achieve what you have set out to do. Then you can be rewarded for your actions.

Getting prepared is a great way to utilize the ‘list’ method we talked about in an earlier post.

Making a list will help you to remember to get the tools you need so you can gather the things you need to get your goal achieved.

As an example: If you are wanting to organize your ‘junk’ drawer, you will need a few things before you get started. Such as a drawer divider(s) to help you separate your items. You may need a pen and paper to write down things that have expired or no longer work (pens, super glue, scissors, old rubber bands, etc.) to replenish what is expired or broke. You will need a trash can nearby as well, to dispose of anything that doesn’t work. You may want to get a new drawer liner as well.

In just a few minutes your task is done because you were prepared. It went faster than expected and was so easy. All because you were prepared.

Whatever your task/goal may be, being prepared to get the job done will make things smoother for you and remove some of the anxiety. You will get the job done faster and save so much energy by not having to run around finding everything you need.

Being prepared is one of the best things you can do for yourself. You will be able to get more things accomplish in a timely manner, you will feel a little more relaxed about the task, and you can get to your reward so much faster and feel good about your accomplishment which is always a great motivator.

I know if you practice being prepared, your world will be a little smoother. It’s the simple things that can be motivating and just make us a little happier.


Still Hibernating? Let’s Get Motivated!


It’s mid-January and it’s hard to stay motivated. I know some have set New Year’s resolutions, others may be wanting to try something new, and some may just want to complete what you already started.

Lack of motivation is the stuff that kills an idea, a dream, a goal or even your next step in your journey.

I have a few ideas that may help you get back into the swing of things.

Write down your goals: Make sure your goals are achievable. No need to shoot yourself in the foot before you begin. Example: You are public school teacher, it’s unrealistic to have your goal to be able to make 5 million dollars this year. (Winning the lottery doesn’t count).

If you have a very large goal, break it down into smaller goals. It’s easier to reach the small goals at a time then to reach the large one all at once.

Write down the small goals so you can keep the list as a reminder. When you achieve the small goal you can check it off the list. It’s so satisfying to reach even the smallest of goals.

You could make a goal chart for yourself. Put it where you will see it several times a day, as a reminder.

Before you know it, all the small goals are checked off the list and the large goal is right at hand.

Goal Achieved? Reward Yourself: After every set goal is achieved, you should reward yourself. Reaching a milestone is huge. You put so much energy and time into this accomplishment, you deserve a reward.

If you made a goal chart, I suggest the ‘sticker method’. I know it’s childish, but you have to admit it, you still like stickers. A sticker is a reward too.

If you want to go a little bit bigger on the reward system: I suggest after each achievement you reward yourself with something you want. Such as, a nice dinner at a new restaurant and bring a friend. You could reward yourself with something that will help your next goal.

Make your reward count. It will help you stay motivated for the next goal.

Set A Limit: This could be a time limit. There’s nothing more motivating than the pressure to get something done when the clock is ticking.

Set a limit for yourself. Maybe you can only devote 2 hours a day towards your goal. Your time is precious, don’t waste it.

Give yourself a break. If you have been using up all your free time and still nothing is done. You could be over working yourself. Take a break from it. We all can be stubborn about our goals and want them to be done tomorrow. Sometimes it just doesn’t work out that way. Be stubborn about your goals but be flexible with your methods. Take a small break. Once your mind is fresh and you have rested, you can get right back into it. It’s ok to pace yourself.

Don’t wear yourself out. You deserve a break too.

Be Prepared: If you know you have a big day tomorrow, being prepared will make your day more productive.

In the evening, try to get some things done. Pack the kids lunches, throw a load of laundry in the washer, or do the dishes. You can get your clothes ready for the next day and pack your bag for work. These little things take up your time in the morning and takes the energy that you need for the next day.

Since you are working on your goal: Have the things you need to help you reach that goal for the day or even for the week. Not having the tools you need to begin your goal/task can suck the motivation right out of you.

Being prepared can make your task easier and take away some of the anxiety you may have.

Ask For Support/Help: If you are struggling or have no motivation, ask for help. There is no shame in asking for help. Remember: it takes a strong person to ask for help. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. We all need help sometimes and having a friend/colleague to confide in can make you feel supported and give you new insight.

You never know what will happen or what help you can get, till you ask.

Accountability: It can be tough to hold yourself accountable for your own goals. Especially when we are not motivated.

Scream your goals/dreams from the roof tops. It hard to lose motivation when so many people are waiting on the next step from you. It makes you feel responsible and can keep you motivated.

Ask a friend/colleague to hold you accountable. This means you will have to share your goals with them. You will need to let them know your timelines, what you want to accomplish and what you see at the end of all the hard work.

You check in with them once a week, a day, a month. Knowing someone is waiting for a progress report is definitely motivating.

End Results: Keeping the end result in your mind can help you stay motivated and on task. It’s a daily reminder of what you want to get accomplished. Think about how good it will feel when you have accomplished so much.

Write down the end of your goal. Write down what you expect, how you think you will feel, what it might look like. Keep this someplace close to you. This way if you are lacking that motivation, you can use this as a reminder of what you want and why you are working so hard.

Don’t give up! You owe it to yourself to keep trying. Don’t let all that hard work you have already invested go to waste. Just like Dory said from the movie “Finding Nemo”: Just keep swimming….

Whatever your goal is, I know you can get it accomplished. Keep your eye on the prize.

I want to be your cheer leader too. Let me know what you tried and how it worked for you.