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6 Steps For Your July 4th Party

fireworksI’m sure most of us have plans for next weekend. Yep, that’s right, Independence Day is next Saturday. It snuck up on me too.

I want to help you plan your get together. Here are some steps to make your event smooth and easy.

This if for a small gathering at your house.

Make lists: Menu list: Food to serve, or make it pot luck and you provide the main dish. Drinks: What you will have, what you want your guests to bring. Purchase list: Ice, napkins, plates, cups, silverware (plastic), trash bags, food, drinks, Citronella candles, and bug spray.

Invites: Social media, e-mails, phone calls, texts…all should be taken care of by this Wednesday at the latest. When you send out invites make sure you inform your guests that they will need to bring (fill in the blank)

Clean up before: Make sure the house is tidy. Especially the bathrooms. Leave extra toilet paper out for your guest (keeps them from snooping).

Empty all trash cans. Have a trash can set outside too. Makes for easy clean-up.

Clean off lawn furniture, mow the yard.

Try to have all of this done by Friday. It will make things easier for you on Saturday.

Prep time: I suggest on Friday you prep as much of the food as possible and set up the seating for outside.

Do a once over for the house, tidy up and make sure that the extra toilet paper and trash bags are were your guest can get to them.

Go Time: The day of your gathering will be busy before your guests arrive. Start putting things together a couple of hours before they arrive.

Start cooking. You can always reheat or keep things warm in the oven.

Make sure you have a table or two for the food. You may even need a power-strip for those guests that may bring a crock-pot. Make sure you put the plates, napkins and silverware out for everyone to grab and go.

Have a designated spot for drinks, coolers, ice and cups.

ENJOY: you have set up a wonderful gathering for friends and family. Now go and enjoy all the hard work and have fun visiting with the people you love. Don’t forget to be safe with your personal fireworks.

I hope these steps have helped you plan your 4th of July party. Don’t forget the real reason we have an Independence Day.

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6 Things You Didn’t Know About Me


Here I go. It’s time to step out of my comfort zone again.

I haven’t been blogging long. But I figured it’s time to start sharing more about myself, so you can get to know me better.

Here are some things that you may not know about me.

I love to organize. I have been organizing since I was a kid. My sister and I shared a room. I was always had the clean side. Sorry sis for throwing you under the bus.organize

Every toy, Barbie and doll baby had its home. My clothes always in the drawers or hanging in the closet. I still keep all my toys and clothes put away.

I like how I feel when everything has a home. I am a detailed organizer. I just don’t put something in a pile/drawer or box and say it’s done. Nope, I organize the box/drawer too.

One of my cousin’s tell me I am an anal organizer because I am so detailed. If I am planning a trip, I start packing at least a week in advance. I make a list of everything I need to pack. I will research restaurants and things to do (in that area) and print them off to take with me. Just so I know I have a back-up of things to do and places to eat in case something comes up.

I know, I am over the top with the organizing, but it sure has come in handy more times than not.

I love music. Especially music that I can sing to. I was raised with music. My mom and her sisters sang all the time, in church, at their homes, choirs, and for funerals. I was surrounded with

Music keeps me sane. It makes me feel good when I can sing along with a song or the music just uplifts me to a better place.

I don’t go a day without listening to some sort of music. It can be classis rock from the 70’s, some new alternative stuff or even my listening to my aunts/uncles recordings.

Music makes me emotional. I have set for hours and cried over the sweet sounds of my Aunts and Uncles voices. I have danced for hours (in the privacy of my own home) because music has given me so much joy I can’t sit still.

I appear to be a tough girl. I’m not. I am a big sissy and a cry baby. I come across that way because I don’t usually cry in public or speak when I am hurting. I just fall apart when no one can watch me. Lots of suffering in silence.

I am really a sensitive person. I get my feeling hurt easily. I never tell anyone that they hurt me. It’s easier this way, because no one else has to get hurt or feel bad.

I cry at Hallmark commercials, especially the Mother’s Day ones. I have even cried at Disney/Pixar movies. The last one was Big Hero 6, sobbed like a baby. I’m a sentimental crier too. If you cry, I am right beside you with Kleenex in hand.

I feel your pain when you are suffering. It hurts me deeply that someone has to go through any type of emotional roller coaster.

I love movies. Movies are my pastime. I love getting lost for 2 hours. I like trying to see the under lining of the story, or figuring out what the writer was ‘really’ telling us.movies

Movies help me relax. They can feed my emotional state of mind. Movies help me disconnect from reality for a while and help me forget the problems I have. Even though it’s for a short time, I feel better after I get lost for a couple of hours.

I am not your typical girl. I don’t care about brand names. I have 5 pairs of shoes, 3 purses, and very little jewelry. I don’t wear make-up, get my hair cut maybe 4 times a year and you will never catch me wearing a dress or skirt.

All those things really don’t matter to me. I am truly a “what you see is what you get” kind of person. No muss no fuss, that’s me. You will most likely see me in t-shirts, jeans and a baseball hat.

It’s just not about the outside appearance for me. I try and see people beyond the appearance. I don’t care what you are wearing (as long as it is clean) I want to get to know you. I hope people see that about me too.

I am very sentimental. I love my family and everyone in it. Each family member has touched my life in some way. Because of that I have decorated my house in memorabilia. I only have a few items hanging on my walls that are not family related. I love my keepsakes. I am reminded every time a look at my walls that I have loved so many people and they loved me. The keepsakes remind me that family is the most important thing in life. If you don’t have family you have nothing….in my opinion.

I have clocks that my Grandpa D gave me, crystal from my mom and Grandma D. I have trinkets from Aunts, Mom and grandparents. Blankets that were made by Aunts and photos that I look at weekly.

These items are my family and who they are/were. I love being surrounded by these items. It reminds me to follow in their footsteps. I feel their love even though most of them are passed.


That wasn’t as hard as I thought it was going to be. I hope that you feel like you are getting to know me better.

I want to hear your feedback. Please let me know something about you or leave a comment about the blog.


Making Lists


Now this is a topic I love. My family thinks I am just a little crazy because of all the lists I make/keep and they say I am addicted to being organized. Well, they’re probably right. I do love my lists and I do get a little goofy grin on my face when I am organizing my stuff or someone else’s things.

I make a list for almost everything. When I go grocery shopping, I have a list. When I have errands to run, I have a list. If I travel, I have a list and carry a pen/paper with me. I even have a list for everyday chores I need to get done.

I really enjoy checking things off my to-do lists. I feel like I am accomplishing my goal and it drives me to keep going. Lists are great reminders for me too. I can get side tracked easily and the lists helps me stay focused.

Here are a few examples where making a list will help.Check List

PRIORITIZE: Prioritizing is a great method of list making you can use to be assured that the most important things will get done first. It allows you to give your full attention and energy.

I suggest that with this type of list, you write down the items that have the highest priority first to the least important to the end. This way you can go straight down the list without having to shuffle things around. Do the items at the top and work your way down.

This type of list can be used for almost anything: business chores, household chores, kids’ activities, weekend chores, vacations, and husband’s to-do. A prioritizing list can be used for the day/week/month and yearly list that you want to accomplish.

I like this type of list because it allows me to see what is important, it helps me stay focused, and the list helps me save time and sometimes money.

GROCERY: I never leave home without my grocery list. This list is simple and most people already use this method for shopping.

The reason I love a grocery/shopping list is, it saves me money. I make my list at home by going through my cabinets, freezer, fridge and each room. This way I know I am making a list of things I need. I only buy what’s on the list. If the item is not on the list I don’t buy it. I can add it to the next time I go shopping if I really need it.

To help with saving money, I sometimes make up a menu for the week and only buy the items for the menu. Great way to save some money and by knowing what your meals are for the week, it takes out the stress of cooking for the week because you already know what you are having.

CHORES: When we think of chores, we think of children. That’s not the case here, even though a chore list works for the kids too. But let’s talk about big kid chores. The things we have to get done, whether it be going to the store, cleaning, organizing, toting the kids from activity to activity or just the simple errands we do every day.

Making a chore list is a great way to remind us of the things we need to get done for the day or week. It can save us time, energy and money because we are not back tracking or adding to the next day of chores that have to be done.

I know you are thinking I don’t need a chore list. I do the same thing every day and I don’t need a list to tell me what is next. You may be right, but what about that one day where everything is turned upside down for some reason? Or, if like me, my memory is shot for the day? Do you have a back-up plan to help yourself out? Just giving you something to think about.

IDEAS: Making a list of your brilliant and not so brilliant ideas is good too. How do you think I come up with these posts? I may not be the brightest crayon in the box, but at least I’m in the box. We all have ideas of things we want for our future or ideas about decorating the house, or ideas of the next best thing. I too have a list, mine is a list of ideas I want to explore or write about.

We may not achieve everything off the list but it’s great to have dreams and just go for it. I really like this list. I can go back to it every day to remember an idea I want to make a post out of or to add to my lists of ideas.

Remember, there are no bad ideas and anything is possible.

Making a list takes less than 5 minutes of your time. In my opinion there’s no reason not to have a list of some sort. It’s one of the simplest ways to help yourself. A list can save you time, energy, money and maybe make you some money too.

Start making your lists today. Let me know how making a list has helped you.