Mother of Necessity

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The Most Influential Woman

This post is dedicated to my Mom. Happy Mother’s day. You are the best.

Mom & Dad

Mom & Dad

I wish I were a poet or a song-writer, because my words will not do her justice. I will stumble through to show my love to the most influential woman in my life.

If you are a follower of my post, you know Mom came from a large family of 15 siblings. Starting at an early age she became the care-giver. It started with her dad.

Grandpa S. (mom’s dad) lost his leg due to illness and my mom and Grandma S. took care of him. Keep in mind Grandma S. still has young ones at home raising them on top of caring for a very demanding husband. My mom would start in the morning and stay all day till my dad came home then she would take care of her little family.

Ever since she put on that hat, of care-giver she has been there for almost every family member that has been sick. To date, she has cared for her parents, her mother and father in law, 7 brothers/sisters and 2 in laws. Most of these she helped care for up to their passing.

My mom will tell you that she wishes she didn’t have that care-giver hat to put on. But she will also say she is grateful and blessed that she was there for her family. She will also say, there is no other place she would rather be then beside her family.

My mom has taught me so much through her care for others. Mom took us kids everywhere with her. I had to be where the ‘action’ was. So I was usually in the same room as the ’sick’ one. From an early age I have watched my mom care for her siblings and family. She taught me what I can do to help the family. Taught me how to be humble when helping others. She taught me how hard it is to be there for family especially when you are dealing with your own emotional roller coaster watching a sibling pass. Mom also taught me that it is an honor and a blessing to care for others.

Mom, Brother, Sister & Me

Mom, Brother, Sister & Me

Mom is 5 foot nothing. Her family called her the ‘runt’ of the litter. She is a tom-boy at heart. She is one tough lady. She’s the one that taught her kids how to play sports.

She taught all 3 of us to play baseball. Boy, she could hit too. She tried to teach us how to do a flip but my brother was the only one who could do it like her.

She helped teach me how to ride a skateboard. How to play volleyball, and ride a bike.

She loved bowling and tennis too. And she could flip anyone twice her size over her hip, right to the floor. I have seen many young men (my brothers friends and cousins) laying in the middle of the living room floor.

Mom is now 70 something and she still has that same spirit. She can no longer swing a bat or flip you to the floor. Due to illness and back trouble. But I know she would if she could.

Growing up with my mom was great, there was always something going on in the house. It could be redecorating a room, making new curtains, a painting project, working in the yard, hemming a stack of pants (because we are all short) or planting and working the garden.

Mom is not one to be idle for long periods. Even now when she doesn’t feel good, she always has a project going on. She still sews her own curtains, still redecorates the house, and still plays in the flower beds. These projects just take longer now.

Before we all left home, our house was always full of people. It didn’t matter if it was a week day or the weekend. Family and friends were always there. If family wasn’t at our house, we were with family in their house.

With mom having so many siblings, she taught us how to play with others (and play nice). She taught us how to play fair and how to be a gracious loser. She taught us to respect our elders. She showed us by her actions that it’s possible to love a multitude of people and be genuine.

Mom and Dad have been married for 53 years. Absolutely amazing!!!! She graduated in May and was married in June. They have known each other for almost 60 years. They are each other’s best friend.

Through their marriage they have taught us how to love your partner in life. Taught us how to sacrifice for the ones we love, with a genuine kind heart. (Where it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice at all). They taught us how not to give up.

Mom is a wonderful grandparent. The grandkids call her Mimi. There are 3 grandchildren (all grown, now). Mom has always played a part in the grandkids lives. She babysat all 3 grandbabies while we went to work.

Mom would teach our kids things she never taught us. Like: how to throw a bouncy-ball into a running ceiling fan and watch the ball bounce off the walls. I am a witness to this event. I walked into the house and got hit in the head with a ball. I told those 2 boys (one of those boys is mine) that Mimi would have a fit if she caught them. They both laughed and said, “Mimi taught us”.

These grandkids exude love for her.

My mom (and dad), have always been there for me. When I went through the divorce, my son and I lived with them for 8 months. Mom took care of my son when I couldn’t. Thank You!!!!

Mom has always been there, even when I didn’t think I needed her. Always there with some advice, or a solution to the problem. Always there to listen and share the burden. Always there to remind me that I am loved.

Mom is always there, especially when I mess up. She is there to enlighten me in my errors (just like all moms) but there to support me too. She has the ability to love you even when you are being the biggest idiot.

My mom’s heart is huge. She has so much love to give. She has never met a stranger and when you walk into her home, you are family. And she treats you as family too. To me, that is a special trait.

Mom has always been willing to help anyone. It could be a stranger asking for gas money. She may not have had much in her purse, but what she has she gives.

She is a wonderful giver, always there to lend a hand, offer some advice or give her stuff away. She loves to give presents and send cards. She wants to make sure that everyone she comes in contact with, knows that they are loved.

I know I have shared a lot of information about my mom, but the one thing that is the most important to her and to me is: She is a born again Christian. Her example of what a Christian lady is, is her legacy. Her example has set a very high standard for me to follow and live by. (I know I will never reach, but I try).

This is my mom. I love her and I am so grateful God allowed me to be her child. God knew what He was doing when He gave me to her.

Thanks Mom for always being there and for being the best example for me.

I LOVE YA, MOM. Happy Mother’s day!!!

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6 Categories For Mother’s Day Gifts

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We all have a mom. She can be the one that gave birth to you, adopted you or the person that raised you. Mother’s Day is just around the corner (May 10th) you have a short time to come up with a game plan to celebrate her.

Here are a few ideas to help you find that right gift for the woman that has been your biggest cheer leader. Some of these ideas I have used myself or are planning to in the future.

For the new mommy: New moms need a break. Usually new moms are exhausted getting used to no sleep, going back to work, and the responsibilities that go with being a mom. I suggest treating her for the full day. Breakfast, lunch and a special dinner. You do the clean-up too. Let mom relax.

If you are wanting a gift, try something very personal. You can print out all the photos of the new bundle of joy and put them in a book. There are many pieces of jewelry that honor’s a mom. Such as: the child’s birthstone for a ring or earrings or charm bracelets.

For the youngsters: (ages 0-12) Mom’s love home made things from their children. Have them make a card or drawing.

You can take them to a pottery shop that allows them to paint a plate or mug. Some of these places may allow your child to even create something out of clay.

You can take them shopping to pick out something ‘they’ think mom would like.

Have them help with dinner and chores to make the house clean for mom.

How about a picnic lunch with the kids and take plenty of pictures.

For the teens: (ages 13-19). You could buy clay pots, let the kids paint something on the pots and have them plant flowers for mom. (We love stuff like that).

Since the kids are older, they can do the chores for mom. Have them plan a home cooked meal, where they cook, serve and clean-up.

If they have part-time jobs they can take $20 and pick something out that mom would use. For instance: is she is a list maker, a new note pad and a pen. If mom has a hobby: buy something for the hobby. Maybe new CD or DVD.

The older teens that can drive can have a date night/day with mom. Take her to see a movie, go hiking. Go to a flower garden or museum. She will love spending time with her kids, especially if she is not paying.

For the old-sters: (ages 20 and up). Believe it or not….Mom’s want to spend time with their kids. Take the day and spend it with you mom. She will love the visit.

If you can’t spend the whole day with her, do something special for her. Plant her a flower garden.

Give her a special gift, like a blanket that has photos all her children on it.

Do a photo album with nothing but you and your mom.

Take her someplace nice for lunch. Someplace she has never been before and someplace where she can dress up.

For the far away Mom: It’s hard to celebrate when mom is in another state. Good news is there are so many things you can still do for her.

Make a video of yourself telling your mom how special she is. Write a letter expressing your gratitude.

You can send her a nice gift basket or flowers. You can even take some of the above suggestions and mail them to her. Like: the blanket, photo album or jewelry.

For the moms that have passed: You can still celebrate your mom even when she has passed. If you dad is still with you, have dinner with him in memory of your mom.

If both parents have passed, then grab your siblings have lunch in memory or your parents.

You can plant flowers by her head stone. While you are there you can clean up around the head stone and talk to her. She would love that you are cleaning up for her and making things look nice.

Plant a tree in memory of mom.

Here are some suggested websites that will help you with that perfect gift. Don’t forget to click on the “Photo” tab at the top of my page. You can purchase a photo that might be perfect for Mom.