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Searching For The Positive

postiveWe are surrounded by terrible stories, events and personal tragedies every day. Stories that make you weep for others. Personal issues that would make others wither.  These things can either soften your heart or harden your heart.

The way I see it, we have become desensitized towards things that we either don’t care or don’t bother to get involved.  We have become so sensitive that everything offends us or we are looking for things to offend us just so we can be heard.

That is no way live. Yes, there are terrible things going one in our world and personal lives, but this does not mean that we have to succumb to the negative things around us. We don’t have to be numb about everything and we don’t have to be so sensitive either. There is a middle ground called positive thinking.

Positive thinking allows us to be in the moment to weep for others but also be blessed knowing that, that ‘story’ could be us.

Now don’t take that the wrong way. I don’t want you to think I don’t care. Because I do. Let me put it this way.

My mom is very sick. It’s hard for me to watch her health decline. It’s an emotional roller coaster with lots of low thoughts. You know what, I would not have it any other way. Because I know it’s my turn to take this journey. I am grateful that I don’t have to be on the path by myself. Grateful that I have family to help me. Grateful for everyday my parents are still here.

Where there is a negative there will ALWAYS be a positive.

I am a realist at heart. It’s easy for me to see the negative first. But, I also search for the positive in any situation. If I can deal with the negative, I know for a fact there will always be positives too.   

We just have to stop and search for the positive. We may not always see the positive at first. That’s why we search. For instance: if you are working on a jig-saw puzzle, sometimes it’s better to turn the picture on the box upside down or the puzzle upside down to get a new perspective. It doesn’t always work but we were able to fit a few more pieces together in the puzzle because of a new perspective.

Searching for the positive takes some energy if you are not used to doing so. But I will tell you, it is well worth the effort.

Practice this the next time you are in the car and find yourself frustrated because the guy in front of you is doing 45 in a 55.  Think of it this way, now you have the time to enjoy that beautiful sunrise, or maybe that is God intervening and saving you from an accident. Either way that is a positive. It will be fine that you are a few minutes late for work.

Things happen and it’s up to us to deal with those things in a positive manner. Which means we have to search the positive first in order for there to be a positive reaction.

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Happy New Year!!!!

Happy New YearWOW!!! 2015 was a roller coaster ride for me. Lots of highs and lows. As I look back on 2015 I realized that I have grown. I have been challenged spiritually and emotionally. I may not have come out of these things the victor but yet I have managed to grow.

2015 had more lows for me than I have ever faced in the past. A couple of deaths in the family that hit me really hard. There were a few cousins that had some illnesses that were/are very scary. My parent’s health is declining.  The struggles of being a parent of an adult child living at home. Not working for over a year. There were lots of reality checks in 2015 that I wasn’t ready to face. Several bouts of depression. The struggle of finding a job.

2015 also had a few highs. A cousin that had two surgeries back to back and recovered nicely and is cancer free. Another cousin changed his life by trusting God. I started the blog and wrote a book. I found a job. I realized that I am tougher than I thought. I have found out that I have so many praying and supporting me.

As I look back on 2015 I realized that I am blessed to have gone through all those emotional high’s and low’s. I am blessed that I have survived all those things. I am blessed that my parents are still here. I am blessed that my cousins love and support me. I am blessed to have the ‘kid’ home with me. I am blessed that I have found a job. I am blessed to have such wonderful siblings and in-laws. I am blessed to have a fantastic niece and nephew and a great nephew.  I am blessed to have amazing Aunts and Uncles in my life. I am blessed to learn that I am strong and I will survive. I am blessed to have had some great adventures in 2015. I am blessed that I have followers and supporters for the blog.

Overall 2015 wasn’t so bad. It could have been so much worse. And I know some would have given anything to take over my highs and lows.

Just like any other year, we think that year was either the best or worst yet. I am blessed that I do not know what this earthly world has in store for me. I am up for the challenge. I can’t fail with so much support and love surrounding me.

I am looking forward to a new year, new challenges, new adventures, new beginnings and more blessings.

I do not do resolutions. But what I want to strive for in 2016 are things that I know will make me a better person.

  1. Recognize my blessings more quickly.
  2. Forgive others and myself more frequently.
  3. Have a servant’s heart.
  4. Be more patient

There are a few other things that I would like to see happen in 2016 (for me).

  1. More followers/supporters for my blog.
  2. Write another book
  3. Grow in my photography skills
  4. My photos will start to add actual income for my family

I hope you all have a wonderful, blessed and fulfilling 2016. Tell me some of your resolutions or hopes for 2016.


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Music Monday: Beatles

Beatles

Here’s a fun song to start the week.

Another short work week. I hope you have a fun and safe week. Remember to look for the little things that make you smile.

Beatles: She came through the bathroom window:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJvxXzmgugs  


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My Journey: New Job-Still Waiting

hourglassAfter a month or so of “busywork” on the new job, I still have no clue on what I’m doing. Or what I’m supposed to be doing.

Weeks into the job, I finally got an eight-hour training session on one of the four programs I need to run. The trainer was great, full of energy and kind of funny. She knew her stuff, and when she didn’t, she brought help in. I liked that about the training class. She did move through the training quickly, which I didn’t like, I wish she’d slow down for us old folks to catch our breath.

A handful of us (semi-newbies) were thrown into this training class that had been in process for a week. We were only there to learn the one program.

I was thrilled to finally have some training, even if it was only for the one program. I was excited to learn more about my job, and it was a great change of pace from the mindless work that I’d been doing.

After the training, I go home having a sense of accomplishment, thinking ‘great! Tomorrow, I’ll have the opportunity to start doing real work!’ I even took a few minutes to review the course work that was handed out, and I was pretty confident about starting the “real” job.

Boy was I let down. I walked into the building, thinking, ‘today is finally the day I get to work on the computer program for real.’ NOPE!!! My supervisor informs me, that we are swamped and she cannot pull a person from their job to sit with me. So, back to the “busywork” it is. (Bubble popped). They are unable to provide a timeline for starting the ‘real’ job.

Don’t get me wrong I will do “busywork,” all day, for the next twenty years, as long as I know that is my job. But knowing I was hired for a different position, makes me feel less productive than I should be. I am very grateful for this job, and I will continue (with a smile), with the “busywork” till they are ready for me.

I can’t wait for the chance to shine a little. Until that day, I will continue to make friends, learn as much as I can from my co-workers, do what I am told, and do it very well.

Abiding my time, grateful for new experiences, adventures, lessons to be learned, and leaving my comfort zone. Before I know it, all of this awkwardness will be in the past and everything will have worked out the way it is supposed to.

AS A SIDE NOTE: The team is beginning to warm up to me, or I to them. Things are still a little odd at times, but they are getting better. People are beginning to carry on conversations with me, and a few are even laughing at my sense of humor, or maybe just me. Either way, I’m okay with it.


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Contest!!!! 12 Days Of Christmas- Your Way

12 days of ChristmasHere’s a challenge for all my readers. I want you to make up your best 12 Days of Christmas song.


Here are the rules: nothing rude, crude or overly distasteful. Make it kid friendly, no cuss words please. If you can’t sing it front of a 7 year old, please rethink your lyrics. It can be themed or just all over the place like mine.

Get the kids involved and have a fun night.

I and a few friends will be the judges. There will only be ONE (1) winner.

Entries must be e-mail no later than the 19th of December. One entry per person please.

The winner will receive 3 Greeting cards (Blank inside) and a free 8×10 Photo print I have taken (at random).  AND…I will post your song on my blog (with your permission).

The Winner will be announced on Music Monday the 21st of December.

Enter your rendition of the song along with your name and add your e-mail address so I can contact you if you are the winner. My blog e-mail: motherofnecessity1@gmail.com

On your mark, get set ….write.

 I want to thank, my brother for the great idea and for helping with some of the lyrics. He’s a nut and I love him.

Thanks mom for your contributions. I was able to complete this madness with your help. Love your ideas.

Thanks to “The Kid” for helping me remember the tune when I was trying to get these silly things to match up to the song.

Enjoy and sing it loud.

Mother of Necessity’s version of the 12 Days of Christmas

                                                                              On the first day of ChristmasGet Happy
my true love gave to me:
A Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the second day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the third day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the fourth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
4 Angry Birds
3 Little pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the fifth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

Kevin Bacon
On the sixth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
And A Partridge Fam-iii-leee


On the seventh day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the eighth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
8 Elves A Cleanin’
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the ninth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
9 Kitty Lives
8 Elves A Cleanin’
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the tenth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
10 Little Indians
9 Kitty Lives
8 Elves A Cleanin’
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

On the eleventh day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
11 Herbs and Spices
10 Little Indians
9 Kitty Lives
8 Elves A Cleanin’
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee

last supper
On the twelfth day of Christmas
my true love gave to me:
12 Disciples Dining
11 Herbs and Spices
10 Little Indians
9 Kitty Lives
8 Elves A Cleanin’
7 Bridges Road
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon
5 Million Dollars
4 Angry Birds
3 Little Pigs
2 Chocolate Turtles
and a Partridge Fam-iii-leee


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I Hope….

 simple flower

I didn’t have a blog post planned for today. I owe you an apology.

I’m so sorry. It has been one hectic week and I have not had the time to work on a post.

 Here’s a little something.

I hope you have had a great week.

I hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner.

I hope The Ohio State Buckeyes beat that team up north today. GO BUCKS!

I hope you had/have safe travels

I hope your Turkey was moist and plentiful.

I hope you didn’t eat too much, as I did.

I hope everyone survived your ‘Black Friday’ shopping spree.

I hope you found great deals and no one lost a limb in the mad dash.

I hope you are relaxing today and recovering from a busy week.

I hope you remembered to be Thankful for all you have.

I hope you have all your needs met.

I hope you didn’t spend too much money shopping.

I hope you hugged your loved ones.

I hope you are hugged often and loved deeply.

I hope you have laughed this week and everyday.

I hope you told your family and friends you love them.

I hope you looked for the little things that made you smile.

I hope your next family gathering will be the best one yet.

I hope you are taking care of yourself.

I hope you are enjoying this weather (Ohio folks).

I hope you are finding your joy.

I hope you forgive me for not having a post.

Since Christmas is just around the corner, I will leave you with one of my favorite renditions of a song.

I “hope” you enjoy.

Joy to the world: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZRIYrQFwqyU&list=PLkW_qeRTF9XX2tJ4webh4rG9i_Vf6peF7


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Music Monday: Eagles

 

I love this group. They are in my top 10. Here’s one of my favorites. Got to love the harmonies and anytime there is a banjo, I always smile.

Have a great week. It’s the little things that make us smile.

Midnight Flyer by the Eagles:

http://music.famousfix.com/tpx_1176855/midnight-flyer/